Tarquin
I think that if you are sexually attracted to your partner but there is a problem with your sex drive then the problem is fixable. If you are not physically attracted to your wife then you may be better off parting and staying the best of friends. You will only end up resenting her because she doesn't provide you with all that you need!
I'm very interested in this subject as I am in a position where my husband and I really love each other and are very well matched intellectually....however, there hasn't been any real spark there for years!
Unlike Tarquin I find my husband physically attractive but we just can't get our sex life restarted, we have been trying for years! I'm only 30 and feel I'm too young to give up on those feelings, but at the same time I don't want to throw away an otherwise happy marriage. Whose to say we separate and I find someone else and in five years end up in the same situation?
Do you take love/friendship etc over passion?
I met someone else briefly and for the first time in about 6 years I experienced those wonderful feelings of lust. I haven't seen the guy since, but cannot get him out of my mind. I feel I'm only obessessing over him because he represents what I am missing out on....
Do I stay and try and resurrect that with my husband, or do I give up everything we've worked for as well as, potentially, my chance at having a family?
ooooh life is soo hard.