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Thanks for your response. Is there anyone else that has a different viewpoint?

We were going out for 2 months, we broke up this weekend. She is going through a lot of emotional stress and she said she needs to get her life back together before she is with me because she is miserable and has been taking it out on everyone, including me. Another thing is she doesnt want me to be the rebound guy, because we started going out about 2 weeks after she broke up with her ex of a year. Another thing is that she likes this other guy, but not exactly in that way, they just have a connection, and he has asked her out and she has had multiple opportunities to be with him but she has always said no. She wrote me this email: Thank you so much for writing me this e-mail. It was a really good idea to write eachother. I don't want to fight with you either. I don't want anyone to get in between us and i want to always be on good terms with eachother. I do remember how happy i am with you, and i do realize what a great guy you are. i am very sorry for not always showing you the same respect that you showed me. i hope that you can forgive me. i would like some time apart not so i can be with a guy, but so that i can be with myself. thank you for understanding. you were always soo good to me, and i will always love you for showing me that i m worth being treated right. if i don't end up being your girlfriend, it will be hard to find another guy like you. smile. i love you. How should I interpret this? What is she truly trying to say? Does it seem like she would want to get back with me? Should I be worried about this other guy? Our plan is actually to just kick it as friends and be there for each other, we're still gonna kiss and sleep together and all that but she said she needs to make decisions for herself instead of involving me in them right now. What does that mean? Is this the right way to go?

Hey guys whats going on, I have a question, maybe I can get some thoughts and opinions on this. I was going out with a girl for 4.5 years. We broke up about 1.5 years ago, and I havent had a relationship since then. However, me and this girl have been getting very close and its to the point where we would almost be going out right now. The feelings are definitely there from both of us. A part of me wants to be with her, but a part of me wants to wait around and see if my ex comes back. Im over her, and we still talk like once a week, but she says she still wants to be with me and loves me, but wants to be with me in the future, not right now. Is it right/wrong for me to wait or move on? Im confused and not exactly sure what I want to do.

Hey guys... Im sure some of you have gone through this before, so Im just wondering what your experiences were and maybe I can get some advice in the process. Me and my ex were going out for 4.5 years, but we broke up last August. Basically we were really serious, talking about marriage in the future and everything, but at that point in August we broke up because she said she needed her space. At first I did the whole begging and pleading thing, which was dumb, but whatever I didnt know better back then. Meanwhile, I have kept contact with her friend who gives me advice and everything about the situation, and she tells me that my ex still loves me. Since August Ive been casually dating, and so has she. Me and my ex talk like once every week or two weeks, and maybe see each other once every two months. Everytime we talk, and especially when we see each other, that chemistry is still there. Its like we cant help but act like we are going out with each other. We went out this past Thursday, and she basically told me she still loves me as a boyfriend and that she will never have what we have with any other guy. She said she wants to be with me, but doesnt know what the future will hold because right now she's not ready to be in a relationship. Why wouldnt she be ready? Should I just lay back and let things happen or push harder to be with her more? I dont really let this whole limbo thing bother me, because I know she really does love me. I just hate the uncertainty around the situation. Thoughts? Comments? Advice? Thanks in advance guys,

So maybe like calling the next day just to say wassup or whatever isnt a good idea?

Yeah, thats what I meant. I just got out of a 4 year relationship not too long ago so Im new to this whole dating scene again. Yeah, she put her phone number on my cell, so Im wondering how long I should wait until I call her.

Question: If you get a girl's number, how long would/should you wait until you call them? 1 day? 2? 3?

Question: Me and my ex were going out for 4.5 years. We broke up last August but during the whole time we have remained in contact, but minimal contact. We both needed space, which is why we broke up. She has now expressed interest in getting back together, but she said she isnt ready and is scared. How can I help her through this? How long should I wait until she is ready? I want to be with her as well, but I dont want to wait forever.

Thanks a lot. Yeah, basically the long story short is she kicked him out (he was living with her and her parents) after a heated argument they had. This was last November. Since that time they broke up, he went to jail, but they dont really speak. He writes to her, but she told me that something tells her not to write to him, so she doesnt, but then again she said at this point of he were to come back to her if he got out of jail she would go back with him. She said shes telling me everything and being straight up because she doesnt want to hurt anyone. Granted that I have only known her for a week, so we're still getting to know each other, but we have really hit it off from the beginning. So things could change... who knows. I was just curious and wondering for a second (or third or fourth ) opinion on how safe I should play it with her.

Basically my question is this: If someone is talking (and by talking I mean like getting to know the other person, but still some physical contact is involved, like kissing, making out, etc.) to another person but they are still sort of thinking about their ex, what would you do? Would you continue "talking" to that person and just see what happens between them and their ex? Or stop talking to them immediately? Its been stated that the other person likes you, and could see you as boyfriend/girlfriend material but if their ex came up to their door to ask them out they would go out with them. What are your takes on this? Thanks. Hopefully we can get a good discussion on this cause Im sure many people have been in this same situation.

What are the signs? Im oblivious to this type of stuff and usually dont pick up on it until its too late.

Well, we were friends and stayed friends for about eight months, so would that have anything to do with the "in love" not being there? She seems to think that as soon as we started going back out the "in love" would come immediately. I told her that it has to come back slowly because we were friends for eight months so we have to get out of that friend mode. Does it come all at once? Or slowly?

Here is the thing... me and my girlfriend/ex-girlfriend/whatever she is right now just got back together after taking a break for eight months. Prior to that we were going out for four years. She said she loves me, is sexually attracted to me, but not in love with me. She said she doesnt feel that "zing" that was there when we were together before the eight month break. I dont understand where we should go from here? What is she feeling? What is she trying to tell me? What is that "zing"?

What does it mean?