Hi, i'm new here so thanks in advance for any advice.
I've just spent a year and a half with a woman. We were in love, she much more than me (or so i thought). Over that time she repeatedly told me how i was the love of her life, how she'd never felt so strongly for anyone etc... She was desperate to settle with me forever and we split up a few times because i wouldn't move in/marry her.
Over the past 6 months i completely stopped making any effort with her, we still had fun and great sex but i forgot her birthday, valentines, went on 4 holidays without her and refused, despite constant pleading, to move in. Finally she became unhappy with the situation and we split because we both admitted we would never provide what the other wanted.
After the split we were very close for 2 weeks, still acting as tho we were together, then i went away for 2 weeks and came back and she was totally different, very cold and uninterested. Despite this she still initiated some contact with me by email. i asked if she was seeing anyone and she said she'd met someone she liked and was only not seeing him out of respect to me. we ended up rowing. Last week i discovered she has started seeing this guy from work (we work together). This has completely destroyed me. Suddenly i feel like everything she said was a lie and like our whole relationship was a sham. She has a little boy and was always careful to protect him. I was like a father to him and suddenly i hear that she is taking him out with her new guy. This is completely out of character too. I don't want to get back with her as i realise it wasn't right, but at the same time i feel completely hurt and betrayed. I walk round work hoping to bump into her, but now am trying to initiate no contact. I just feel so hurt by her behaviour it's tearing me up.