girl troubles.

let me make this simple with the facts. I'm a 16 year old guy. in my circle of friends theres a girl i REALLY like. a year and a half ago, i asked her out and she said no. we're still friends. then i got a car at 16, she started to hang out with me more often, i know she was using me for my car, but i didnt care cuz i really like her. she likes to drink alot, i dont really care cuz when she drinks she gets loose and gave me (and other guys) some. i'm a good friend of hers, cuz she tells me all her troubles and stuff like that. now she got her own car, she doesnt really hang out with me outside of school that often anymore. but when we do hang out, she still tells me everything she did on the weekend, including which guy she did. I really dont like hearing this crap (ok, i'm jealous) and it pisses me off that i'm just her "nice" friend. mainly, she doesnt do anything with me cuz i'm not like her other bad boy friends who smoke/drink heavily/and do every drug out there. So i'm just her friend that is basically pu$$y whipped without the pu$$y (pardon my terms), she walks all over me, asks for rides here and there, money, and other things, and i give in and she uses me. the thing that really pisses me off is she ditched me now that she has her own car, and i perosonally wanna punch her in the nose (i'm not that kinda guy though, remember, im the "nice guy") other things, she tells me everything she did on the weekend and stuff and it pisses me off, how can i "send the signal to her without talking" that i dont give a rats ass what or who she did and make her feel guilty that she doesnt invite me anywhere anymore? Also, (I know its not love) but is there a complex reason why i've liked her for years, even after she said no to me, or is it a simple physical attraction? (my friends just say if u do her once, you get over her), but that doesnt seem to the case, i think its heavier, but not heavy as love. So, theres my situation, i'm glad you took the time to read it, and PLEASE give me your input, cuz this crap ha caused SOOOOOO much trouble to me, like i'm talkin suicide due to rejection and jealously. even if you dont have a complete solution, just give me a comment, anything. thank you.

The big question you have to ask yourself is:

Is she worth it? REALLY worth it? You already know she was using you for your car. It's unfortunate, but you'll probably never win her heart, and I doubt you ever really had a fair chance. That won't ease the hurt, or your looking back and seeing how you would twist yourself into a pretzel to do anything for her, only for her to place the same value on you as she would a hairbrush or a potted plant. It $ucks, but you deserve someone who's interested in you for YOU. Someone who feels as much for you as you do for them. If being a friend to her is important to you (without doing so in hopes of taking it to a romantic level), continue to do so, but as equals.

Let her go, and give her the opportunity to show you what kind of friend (if any) she is. Be nice, but don't be her lacky any more.

I agree with my friend shy_guy...

You should leave her alone. But I don't really think that she was using you. At her age she is just attracted to a man in a car. Nothing wrong with that. She is must consider you important to her or should would not be telling you all of these things.

Perhaps you should cherish your friendship. Having a good female friend can be very helpful. But...

If you really desire her, then you will have to change your role in her eyes. Stop giving her all of the attention. Don't "stop the world" when she comes around. As she sees the different you, she may come around to you. Or you may have to approach her and tell her your feelings for her.

Either way think it out.