Should I stay with boyfriend of 2 yrs?

I caught my boyfriend packing viagra for a business trip. He says it was just some fantasy he had and didn't act on it. I'm torn.

Viagra is not for "fantasies."

I'm in a relationship with a guy that needs to take a pill. I don't mind. It takes time to adjust to losing spontaneity bit the sex is great regardless

So basically he needs a pill to perform on a normal basis , thus telling you he had every intention of having sex on his business trip .

He was planning on cheating on you. Just because you busted him BEFORE he could go through with it changes nothing.

Dump him as you will never trust him ever again.

Imagine how you feel every time he is gone for a business trip?

He showed his true colors so all you have to do is accept this is who he is.

I am sorry

Lost

Dayum. It doesn't get any clearer than that. You know the fantasy bit is bull. He was planning on using it if he was packing it. Did he have previous business trips? I imagine he packed some then too.

I'm curious, what was this fantasy he had? I bet he was squirming while explaining it.

How old is he?

Does he ever have to use it to have sex with you?

Does he have any medical issues like Diabetes or heart problems?

Did he tell you what the fantasy was that would entail him popping a Viagara?

He's 58. He does have diabetes and high blood pressure. And yes he has to use the " blue pill". He never could explain this fantasy he had in his mind and his story never added up. I know what his intentions were and he insinuated that our sexy times were boring putting his bull back on me. Of course this incident has effected my self confidence on so many levels. I doubt whether I can build trust in him ever again. If I mention it he cries about why I can't trust him.

His another side of the coin:

Lots of men pop a blue pill to masturbate so yes, it can be used for fantasies. It may be that his explanation was the truth. Do you get upset when you know he's masturbated to porn? It may be as simple as him not wanting to disclose that he uses the pill to get himself off as well as to have intercourse.

Not to dismiss your concerns but you can't just dismiss what he has to say to you because you think it's bull. If he's not finding your love making exciting then instead of getting upset or not believing him, why not ask him what he thinks the two of you can do to spice things up?

If you're going to not trust him ever again then you might as well just break up now and find someone who you can trust and be copacetic with. If you're going to stay even though you don't believe or trust him then you should get couples counselling to help narrow the emotional gap you're now feeling is present in the relationship.