Prudish Attitudes Towards Sex

I live in India(a very pathetic part of India I am just sick and tired of the guys and their attitudes towards sex.

They think that masturbation is wrong and it will cause problems in future.

They have no understanding of the concept of premarital sex. They think that you are NOT supposed to have sex with your girlfriend before marriage. If you have sex with your gf, it must mean you don't love her

All of them are virgins btw(Me included).

They are adamant at wanting virgins as their wives. Nothing wrong with that but some guys are obsessed with this. One guy even said he would divorce his wife if there was no hymen breakage.

As for their attitudes towards casual sex - are you kidding me?!!

They say nudity in movies will corrupt young people but they will still watch porn though.

Honestly they make sex to be such a big deal that I will never tell them when I lose my virginity. Not even my close friends. They would basically kill me.

Anybody else living in such an environment?

are you wanting to have sex before marriage? so is it your culture you are having a struggle with?

i live in the US. there is premarital sex going on a lot here. i'm part of it. i think if i didn't experience it before marriage, i wouldn't know what i liked or be able to comfortably please my partner.

Every culture is different, and there can be very large differences within a single society and country depending on where you live.

Do you want to live in this culture? If you really don't like it, perhaps you could move to a more liberal city, or somewhere where you would meet people who have a different attitude that matches yours.

That is tough. It would be hard to have to hide all of your relationships. At least your country won't have as many 14 year olds with strolers.

my country(Iran) is somehow the same as yours, except for the fact that guys dont have any problem losing their virginity and say that to eachother proudly! for girls it is still not normal. It is changing though and many of my friends in big cities are not virgin. well I am a girl and I had sexual partners. But I dont mind having boyfriends or marrying out of my culture as my bf now is american.

Hey worried girl, do you live in US now? Did you move from Iran?

Do you want to live in this culture? If you really don't like it, perhaps you could move to a more liberal city, or somewhere where you would meet people who have a different attitude that matches yours.

I don't want to but I have one more year here.

Every culture is different, and there can be very large differences within a single society and country depending on where you live.

Absolutely. Bangalore and some cities are very liberal.

anyway there are some more liberated males out there you just have to look around....

Oh actually I am a guy. I was just talking about the attitudes of the guys here. It is not even double standards actually. It is just plain prudishness. This is the way they have been brought up. What can you do?

elevator61,

I can only admire the sincerity of your people. If my people even had half as much faith in their traditions...

But of course, everyone has unique preferences. We must keep the principle of the freedom of conscience in mind.

elevator61,

Some people would admire your culture. If you wanna have sex i guess you dont need people telling you all this, you just need a gf who has similar thinking. Is it difficult to find one in 1.2 billion people?

elevator61,

 

I can only admire the sincerity of your people. If my people even had half as much faith in their traditions...

 

But of course, everyone has unique preferences. We must keep the principle of the freedom of conscience in mind.

Hey it's ok if they keep their beliefs to themselves. Why push it on others?

For example, if somebody takes a room in a hotel with his gf, he should be extra careful. It is a stampede when the police comes over! People running around getting out the back door! Why should premarital sex be illegal anyway? It is actually not illegal but the police behave as if it is.

And PDA - well that is out of the question.

I had a pretty conservative upbringing and I was always curious about sex at a young age because it was always considered a big taboo. As I got older and went to college I had several one night stands but I felt that sex was over-rated and it wasn't all these fireworks that you saw in the movies. Now I'm in my late 20s and look forward to settling down with someone and having really great sex with someone you love. It sounds corny but I totally understand where my parents were coming from when they said no sex until you are married. However, I totally empathize with you, elevator61, because you should be given the choice to go through the experience and figure things out for yourself. I hope you find someone in India who is on the same vibe and have a beautiful experience with each other.