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    Paula Thompson

    When Relationship Change: 5 Tips to Keep the Spark Alive

    Change is an inevitable part of life, and this applies to relationships as well. It isn't that something necessarily goes wrong; rather, over time, people adjust to one another and their connection shifts in subtle - and sometimes not so subtle - ways.

    It's an unsettling feeling when you realize that things are going off course, but, fortunately, it doesn't have to be a cause for alarm. It's quite common to experience shifts in relationships, as long as both parties do their part to recognize them and embrace the process.

    Whether you're dealing with a recent change, or are worried about a future one, here are five tips for keeping your relationship interesting and thriving:

    1. Communicate honestly

    Relationships can grow stagnant if both partners aren't honest about how they're feeling. If something isn't making you happy or is bothering you, let your partner know without pointing fingers or getting defensive. Avoiding discussing certain subjects will simply lead to resentment down the line.

    True communication means listening - not only to what your partner is saying, but to the underlying sentiment as well. Listen carefully to create a deeper understanding and offer valuable insights into your partner's world view. If a dialogue begins to enter a gray area, stop and ask questions to gain clarity and progress.

    2. Express gratitude

    It's easy to take the people in our lives for granted, and the same goes for relationships. Oftentimes the smallest efforts deserve the most appreciation, since they demonstrate the thought that was put into it.

    Expressing gratitude will help your partner to recognize that they're valued, and it can be a great reminder that you recognize even the subtlest of gestures. Try to be specific when you're expressing gratitude - tell your partner why you were grateful or provide an example of how your relationship benefited.

    3. Maintain individual identities

    It's important for both parties to have their own time and space. If a relationship starts to feel suffocating and monotonous, then try backing off a bit and taking some time for yourself. Use this time to pursue a hobby, exercise, or just spend time alone with your thoughts. Letting go of any expectations or obligations will do wonders for your relationship and your peace of mind.

    Additionally, encourage your partner to do the same. People often find that when they come back to the relationship, there is a newfound appreciation for their partner and for the relationship itself.

    4. Connect on multiple levels

    Go beyond surface conversations and explore different avenues of connection. Create shared experiences or activities that you and your partner can share, such as going to a museum or trying a new restaurant.

    Similarly, challenge each other intellectually and engage in meaningful conversations. Open up to talk about topics that mean something to you, such as your passions, values, and aspirations.

    5. Try something new

    Do something unexpected or out of your comfort zone together. Whether it's a weekend getaway or a cooking class, having a variety of experiences together can bring a sense of excitement and joy into your relationship.

    Taking risks together can also be beneficial, as it will allow you to assess and express different sides of yourselves. This can open up both of you to a whole new perspective.

    Changes in relationships don't have to be seen as a bad thing. In fact, by recognizing the shift and using these strategies to nurture your partnership, you may just find yourself in an even deeper and more meaningful connection. Remember to communicate openly and honestly, express gratitude for each other, enjoy individual time and activities, connect on multiple levels, and never be afraid to try something new.

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