kenshinkitten Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 Is it possible to be addicted to Rough sex or any kind of sex? My boyfriend and I have been just letting loose on each other like nobody's business for a long time, like 6 months. Crazy, rough, sweaty kind of sex. It's awesome don't get me wrong. Last night when we had sex though it was just...meh. Plain normal average sex, not fast or slow...it was so boring...I didn't feel anything and the times I did was when we did a tiny bit extra work. The thing is though though that I want to just have normal sex sometimes, I don't want to get completely exhausted every time we have sex. Is it possible to get so used to rough sex that normal sex is just not pleasurable anymore? Link to comment
Seraphim Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 Anything not done with moderation is not good. Nothing is quite the same when it is all the time all the time all the time. Then it fast becomes same ole stuff. You have to mix it up. Link to comment
ryan123 Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 Not possible for me. I love rough sex and I love the times where I just hold her close and thrust slowly and passionately. But maybe thats because we don't do either for 6 months straight. I couldn't have rough sex with someone I had feelings with every time. Link to comment
Aviatormy Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 Yes, I think that you can easily become addicted to rough sex. This would be ok if rough sex was actually EASY. The fact that it does wear you out though is not a great thing. You will become so bored with your partner if you continue to do this and ultimately, you may end up leaving him because of it. Try to go at least a couple weeks without the rough sex and try to connect with him all over agian through a more intence version of "slow sex". You need to try and discard that passion for a bit but I know that will be tough Good luck with that. Link to comment
drewciouS281 Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 i agree with aviator. although at first you may not like it or find it as pleasureable, practice it without the roughness. try some kinky sex with toys. that doesnt have to be exausting. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 rough sex is how i usually do it. it's almost always exciting. addicted? i guess i am. cause i do the neck grabbing, hips grabbing, booty slapping, hair pulling all the time. Link to comment
kenshinkitten Posted September 25, 2008 Author Share Posted September 25, 2008 Well you're all making valid points...I'll try to tone it down for a while. Not that Ghost is making it any easier!! Grr... Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 it's sex. i never thought it was supposed to be normal. cept when i was 18 or something. i guess that was normal. i'm never going back. Link to comment
i_win Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 Right now it seems that I'm addicted to the complete opposite. Sex so gentle in fact that I don't even notice that it's occurring. Oh yeah that's right, cause it isn't! Lucky me. Link to comment
teknoise Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 Yes, its addictive. Because its good. If there is not some element of grabbing, biting, choking, hair pulling, twisting, pinning down, and deep thrusting its not good sex. But changing it up is kinda nice once in a while. Too bad everytime me and my gf try that it just gets rough again after a few minutes anyway. Link to comment
insecurefool Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 in a committed relationship, there is nothing wrong with taking things slower, and a lot of good things can come from it. you are obviously missing out on some very pleasurable aspects of lovemaking by allowing your partner to rail on you like some random he met. sorry to be so harsh Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 in a committed relationship, there is nothing wrong with taking things slower, and a lot of good things can come from it. you are obviously missing out on some very pleasurable aspects of lovemaking by allowing your partner to rail on you like some random he met. sorry to be so harsh why is rough sex associated with randoms? Link to comment
PsychGirly Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 why is rough sex associated with randoms? That's what I was thinking...you can be rough but passionate at the same time. I actually find rough sex more passionate than slow sex...in the sense that more intense emotions arise during rough sex, but that's just my opinion.. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 That's what I was thinking...you can be rough but passionate at the same time. I actually find rough sex more passionate than slow sex...in the sense that more intense emotions arise during rough sex, but that's just my opinion.. absolutely. it's fantastic when you are sitting there all exhausted together holding each other..possibly sweating. good times if you ask me. Link to comment
kuiks8 Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 i totally agree, you need to have a lot of trust in your partner to go to those levels... Link to comment
insecurefool Posted September 26, 2008 Share Posted September 26, 2008 why is rough sex associated with randoms? you are all over this board talking about your random exploits so i dont know what your perspective is. my point was that random hook ups tend to be much more animalistic and "rough" in nature. I know from my own perspective, I have to be rough with girls I barely know or feel no emotional connection to or I can't get off. it's just like masturbating, it takes much longer because it is purely a physical stimulus you are going for. there is attraction there, but not much substance. With a partner I have been with for a while, being rough has its places and times. But, if the feelings are strong, she can get me overly excited just with gentle, passionate sessions. i dont really want to get more into it because different partners have different preferences, to each his/her own. Link to comment
Rose21 Posted September 26, 2008 Share Posted September 26, 2008 Well I don't know if you would call my boyfriend's and I's rough sex, but we do get pretty worn out afterwards. A little sweaty. But I wouldn't call it "rough" We just get into it. He doesn't slap my ass or pull my hair or bite me or anything. Just sucking on my neck/boobs etc. I just like it when he thrusts deep and fast. We do it slow and deep at times, then pick up the pace. All diff positions multiple times. To do it slow, Oh God that would be boring. But when we do it, it never feels rough. It's always breathtaking and passionate. And I can kiss him and we say "I love you" alot. It's more of a "I want you so bad!" Instead of a, "Get over here and conquer me" type thing. There is always lots of noise. And after we just lay in eachothers arms cuddling and stroking eachother, telling eachother which parts we enjoyed the most, and after a rest we either stop or go again if its been awhile or it was EXTRA good. Then we usualy take a hot shower or bath together=) Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 26, 2008 Share Posted September 26, 2008 ^^^that just sounds like exhausting sex, not rough. Link to comment
kenshinkitten Posted September 26, 2008 Author Share Posted September 26, 2008 you are all over this board talking about your random exploits so i dont know what your perspective is. my point was that random hook ups tend to be much more animalistic and "rough" in nature. I know from my own perspective, I have to be rough with girls I barely know or feel no emotional connection to or I can't get off. it's just like masturbating, it takes much longer because it is purely a physical stimulus you are going for. there is attraction there, but not much substance. With a partner I have been with for a while, being rough has its places and times. But, if the feelings are strong, she can get me overly excited just with gentle, passionate sessions. i dont really want to get more into it because different partners have different preferences, to each his/her own. Ok well it's different for everyone. I love my boyfriend we've been together for 2 1/2 years, we're very attracted to each other. Rough sex can have substance, we're not rough all the time all I'm saying is that physically I enjoy it more rough then anything else. Link to comment
blue69 Posted September 26, 2008 Share Posted September 26, 2008 What people like varies from each one... some like rough.. some like slow. I tend to think that a variety is nice. Who says that random hookups are all about rough sex. Some of my more gentle moments were with "random" pickups. I find a nice rythmic pace is fun, sensual and erotic. I like ass smacking (both ways), tugs, pinches and pulls. Those are fun too. Obviously the adrenaline can get going more when you are "working out" with mor energetic sexual exploits. This might explain a more addicted reaction to rougher sex. Either way is good, but it would appear that you have realized (or seem to think) that you are doing a bit to much lately and would like to enjoy a slow moment once in a while too. Just remember that sexual responses to physical activities can be programmed. We do actually "train" ourselves to our responses. So... enjoy smack happy sex... but throw in a bit of variety once in a while. Have Fun!! Link to comment
teknoise Posted September 26, 2008 Share Posted September 26, 2008 absolutely. it's fantastic when you are sitting there all exhausted together holding each other..possibly sweating. good times if you ask me. Possibly sweating? if you don't break a sweat you're probably doing it wrong. my point was that random hook ups tend to be much more animalistic and "rough" in nature. I know from my own perspective Not really. I find its easier to be rougher with someone I know because I know their boundaries better and I am more comfortable being animalistic with them. If its someone I don't know all too well there are still all these cultural norms you gotta appeal to until we're both comfortable enough to shred them apart and go to town Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 26, 2008 Share Posted September 26, 2008 Possibly sweating? if you don't break a sweat you're probably doing it wrong. i don't always sweat man. sometimes it's cold. Link to comment
LBP Posted September 27, 2008 Share Posted September 27, 2008 i don't always sweat man. sometimes it's cold. True, or a window's open. Or the fan is rocking. Many variables. Link to comment
collegegal1 Posted September 27, 2008 Share Posted September 27, 2008 What people like varies from each one... some like rough.. some like slow. ....some like it in the pot, nine days old. haha Link to comment
idls Posted November 5, 2008 Share Posted November 5, 2008 maybe romantic sex and start off extra slow just have ALOT of foreplay and talk about sex and new stuff. I completely understand, me and my boyfriend have crazzzy rough sex, he pulls my hair, slaps me, shoves his fingers in my mouth, etc. And I love it but I have been considering me and him having romantic sex soon I mean it'll probably end up getting harder towards the end of course ;] it's my favorite Link to comment
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