philosophia Posted April 9, 2007 Share Posted April 9, 2007 I was in bed w a girl, things were getting hot and heavy, we started to get ready to have sex, and she stopped me. She said, 'no, it's too soon. Sex changes everything.' Of course, we wound up doing it anyways. What exactly did she mean by 'sex changes everything?' In my mind, it doesn't have to change anything. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted April 9, 2007 Share Posted April 9, 2007 Some of the things it changes/can change: You risk becoming a mom or dad; increased risk of STDs/needing to get tested in come cases it means the couple has to discuss monogamy/exclusivity many people get emotionally attached - more so than without - and that is a big change if there are "issues" in bed you have to deal with those too and it might be too early on to be able to deal with them in a comfortable way (and some of the issues are always awkward but at least if you know each other well you will do better at communicating) Link to comment
philosophia Posted April 9, 2007 Author Share Posted April 9, 2007 I have a feeling she meant in come cases it means the couple has to discuss monogamy/exclusivity many people get emotionally attached - more so than without - and that is a big change one of these. We used protection, and there were no sexual issues. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted April 9, 2007 Share Posted April 9, 2007 Protection can fail both for STDs and pregnancy - I assumed you used protection. I assume you're either ready to be a daddy or you two discussed her comfort level with an abortion. She probably did mean the monogamy/exclusivity part but since she decided to go ahead with it you can assume she is ok with it being just casual. Link to comment
philosophia Posted April 9, 2007 Author Share Posted April 9, 2007 in come cases Freudian slip Link to comment
Siriana Posted April 9, 2007 Share Posted April 9, 2007 Oh....you got yourself in a mess....she likes you Link to comment
FortunateOne Posted April 9, 2007 Share Posted April 9, 2007 I think she meant the hormonal bonding that sex creates among partners. link removed I heard females tell me that this is when they lose reasonable perspective on discerning the man's true intent. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted April 9, 2007 Share Posted April 9, 2007 Freudian slip Yes, but less troubling than a protection slip for you I suppose ;-) Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted April 9, 2007 Share Posted April 9, 2007 To some people it doesn't change anything, but when someone says it will change things there's an excellent chance that they are one of the people for whom it's an intimate act that does change the perameters of the relationship. My advice, don't have sex with her again. Don't back off but go slower if you don't intend to have that close a relationship with her, and don't lead her on in order to get her back in the sack. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 9, 2007 Share Posted April 9, 2007 she has feelings for you and is scared that is all you want from her sounds like. Link to comment
finewhine Posted April 9, 2007 Share Posted April 9, 2007 She sounds melodramatic to me. Link to comment
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