confused82 Posted March 19, 2007 Share Posted March 19, 2007 Okay so yet another post on this same old break up. Just recently I was thinking of contacting my ex ( of three weeks) to get some real clearification of why she is leaving me. I felt like the reasons she had given me were not justifiable to leave someone of 6 years. (ie arguing to much, my needyness and criticialness) She didnt even try to fix those things either, just up and left. Well I contacted her and said I would like to talk in person and so we were going to meet either yesterday or today well in the mean time she talked with a really good mutual friend of ours about the situation. Long story short the mutual friend is a psycologist so she understands and articulates feelings VERY well. She was able to ask my ex 1000000 questions to be able to understand the true meaning of her leaving. My ex, in so many words, said she doesnt like who she became in the relationship and how she thinks we are compatiable in so many ways but also not compatiable. (Her and I probably had one of the best relationships that any of my family and friends and even her OWN MOM has seen) we do argue alot and act immature in the arguments, generated from alot of underlying issues and being with each other since we were 17/18 years old. My feelings on this are...........okay I understand where she is coming from and I do agree to a certain extent HOWEVER why in the heck wouldnt she have come to me ahwile ago and talk to me about these things and try and work them out? I am not saying that maybe they could have been worked out WHO KNOWS however wasnt it worth the shot???? and i guess the answer on her part is she was just letting them go as they were not that big of a deal until they all just added up and her heart is no longer in it. (ps we just bought a house 6 months ago) So her feelings have been there for a long time but she pushed them aside thinking they were not big enough to go but the last month or two she really let them get to her and DIDNT say anything. this really hurts me and is totally out of my control and i understand that. I am not going to be having that conversation as I feel I have already gotten my closer but I do want to have some "closing statments" to her....... I gave her 100% of myself and my love and everyone around us saw that and she apparently only gave 75%. How was I so blind? I seriously thought she felt the same way and so did everyone else HELP!!!!! Link to comment
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