Need Some Advice

[carleneandrea]

I really did not want you to get this angry about it. I new regular joe was you and you wouldn't admit it. So I played with you. I thought everything was going along smoothly until this last post and what happened at home. Again, I didn't expect you to get that angry. You knew I was going to join a forum. I told you I was. You said "Do what you have to in order to understand." I guess it got to you.

[Flux]

If hes interested in guys, and you know he is. Then I dow see what the problem is about marrying him. He obviously loves you, and you know about his relationship with another man before so hes not marryin you to try to cover his tracks so to speak. But if your worried about him findin other men attractive then I don't see the problem. Just like he'll find other women attractive regardless of his marital status.

 

If you've been with him and know all this then I dont see any problem in bieng marreid to him..

[carleneandrea]

My head is spinning. I do want to marry him but I also need to be careful. I don't want to mess up my sons life. He is going with me no matter what I choose.

 

For some unknown reason I am worried about him be attracted to men but not women. Now, he has amitted he is regular joe so we can asked him questions on here. I believe what he tells me. He wants to be with only me, wants to get married, wants to have a child with me, and the other part of his life is over.

[regular joe]

Madmegz666, First of all lay off the weed and booze (it's in your profile) it's not helping you any. It clouds your judgement, that may be part of your dilemma. Try laying off the stuff, it will only lower your inhibitions and you may not make the same choice sober. Second of all hit the spell checker at the top of your page. My head is also spinning. OK folks one more time, it happened twenty plus years ago. It was young insecurity about sex and how to handle raging hormones. Had the opportunity to do it again when i was older (Yes, I told her about this too. long story) Did not want it, enjoy being with a woman. Anymore questions?

[carleneandrea]

Well, where has everyone been? Does anyone have any input on what just happened? I was spied on!!! Invasion of privacy, I would say. Regular Joe does not feel like he did anything wrong. He feels he had the right to invade my privacy. I guess he was very concerned about the advice I would get in here but still, I feel violated.

[Suesser Tod]

There are way too much lies and half truths in this thread that I'm overwhelmed...

 

 

Common to have "homosexual" experiences in the early teens? They say so, I have never touched someone of my same sex, as I find my same sex disgusting. Obviously, homosexual porn is twice as disgusting for me. At some point, because of my lack of success with the opposite sex, I entertained the idea, but I snapped out of it almost inmediately, because, other than being disgusted, it wasn't me, it wasn't what I wanted and I would have been doing it against my feelings and for all the wrong reasons. So I do think that some of us, if not all, at some point of our lives, can have thoughts about homosexual experiences ...

 

But a 1 year "booty call" relationship, with another person of the same sex, that is a far cry from the early teens homosexual experiences.

 

An experiment happens once, and there are only two possible outcomes, you like it or you dont. If you don't, then you never do it again. If you do, even if you feel guilty and go in denial, sooner or later you'll do it again.

So, anyone that can sustan a one year relationship with someone of the same sex and does it willingly, is homosexual or bisexual, no way around it.

 

So if Carleneandrea's only worry is if he is bisexual or not, I'm sure she should start packing and leave, as he is as bisexual as the earth is round.

 

 

What I don't get, is why Carleneandrea is so worried about proving if he is bisexual or not.

 

 

The only fact that matters is that he loves her and he is with her. If he is bisexual it doesn't mean he will go out there, everyday, looking for a man to cheat on her. Also, if he is bisexual, it does not mean that he loves her any less.

 

 

Either way, I can't see that relationship working in the long term. There are so many lies, insecurities, lack of communication, and the little there is, seems to be awfull, that sooner or later, it will blow up.

[regular joe]

Suesser tod Mind your own F*****g business. You don't know * * * * so F***k off and die. You don't know me. Advice and opinions are like * * ****es everyone has one. Carlene so what your saying is it is OK for you to keep secrets from me. To put my life on the Internet with this F***King site and the other one. I am who I am, my past is what it is. If it's an Issue Then take the above * * ****les advice and move on.

[regular joe]

The other option is to move on, judge our relationship on it's merits and lets move forward.

[Suesser Tod]

Suesser tod Mind your own F*****g business. You don't know * * * * so F***k off and die. You don't know me. Advice and opinions are like * * ****es everyone has one. Carlene so what your saying is it is OK for you to keep secrets from me. To put my life on the Internet with this F***King site and the other one. I am who I am, my past is what it is. If it's an Issue Then take the above * * ****les advice and move on.

 

 

Based on that post alone I can see your maturity level when it comes do dealing with opininons. Seriously, if that's the way you deal with an opinion, I don't want to know how you deal with your own sexual idenitity issues.

 

Oh and it seems that you did a good job tracing your SO's steps, down to this and other site. Goes to show the strong trust that relationship was built on.

[regular joe]

I don't have any sexual identity issues Suesser Tod, say what you want I'm a heterosexual male. This Issue is none of your business, she wanted to go the Internet, I guess then our issue quit being private. I didn't have to pry and spy, she left a trail a blind man could follow. the other website sends e-mails to our mutual mailbox. Where do you get off standing up on a soap box and judging me? You live your life the way you see fit and stay out of mine. The biggest problem here is this is an issue between her and I. It's been going on way too long. If she wants to talk about then she should speak directly to me with out interference from the rest of the world.

[regular joe]

One more thing Suesser Tod, just like Blender. I looked at how many posts you have on here. It's funny that the people that are the most opinionated have the most posts on here. Where do you find time for your relationship? Is it so perfect that you have time to meddle in others? May be if you spent more time on your relationship and less time in here you could get yourself a girl. Call me an I'll give you some pointers.

[Suesser Tod]

One more thing Suesser Tod, just like Blender. I looked at how many posts you have on here. It's funny that the people that are the most opinionated have the most posts on here. Where do you find time for your relationship? Is it so perfect that you have time to meddle in others? May be if you spent more time on your relationship and less time in here you could get yourself a girl. Call me an I'll give you some pointers.

 

Hate to break it on you, but 213 posts since December? Come on, thats about 2 posts a day. And don't know how much it takes for you to write a post, but to me, those two posts don't take more than 10 minutes.

 

As for getting a girl, why would I want another? I have a girlfriend, 1 year 1 month, and I'm extremely happy with her, thanks for asking.