rusloi Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 split up with the ex bout 2 months ago now.....maybe spoke 5 times during that...last was bout 4weeks ago.....i feel im gonna IM her just to chat normally and see if i can cope...is this a good idea and how could i start the convo? i was thinking: Hey? Link to comment
Honey Pumpkin Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 Hi Rusloi, No it's not a good idea. How are you going to feel when she says 'Hi' and has a brief chat, then says she's gotta go because she's got better things to do? You've had a five minute chat and will feel rubbish all evening (and tomorrow) probably. And for what? Sorry, didn't mean to sound harsh!! I'm just not sure what you're going to find out by IM-ing your ex, apart from putting pressure on the wound. God knows I understand the temptation, but ask yourself why you want to get in touch? Are you hoping for a fantastic chat and maybe to get back together? If it were me, a brief chat without any warmth would hurt me so much, which is why I'm saying to you to go and do something else instead! Sorry, dont' mean to sound negative. Link to comment
Grosse vache Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 If you have to ask whether it's a good idea then no, it isn't. Link to comment
isidore Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 Listen to Honey Pumpkin, rusloi, while there is still time! You don't have to slam your head into this concrete wall. Link to comment
heloladies21 Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 If you're hoping to use this method to get her back, it won't work. It fails 100% of the time when guys in your situation try it. All that would happen is you'd be stringing yourself along, trying to read into every little thing she does, till the eventual day when she drops you for good (usually for another guy). Link to comment
Mavis VDSande Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 NO!! DO NOT DO IT. Why? Because if she REALLY wanted to talk to you -> she would have IM-ed you by now. Or phoned you, or emailed you -> anything! Link to comment
in_love Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 Yeah kinda agree... she would have contacted you by now. hmm.... I ain't one to talk but generally my gut feelings have been right for me and my bouts of contacting her have generally got a reply followed by her calling ... and thus the cycle of creating my own insane world continues :shocked!: Link to comment
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