We are OK

[elithepi]

We are going to be OK people!

Look at us all posting on here.

Yes, we hurt.

Yes, it seems never ending.

Yes, there are a lot of us on here posting about pain.

 

We will get through it.

 

Just the sheer number of us on here proves that.

Almost everyone feels or has felt like we do.

 

It's hard, yes. But the pain will make us all wiser.

 

I hate this more than any of us.

I still cry at the drop of a hat. I make stupid phone calls.

But we WILL get through this.

 

People tell us ,"Time heals."

I hate that. Time is going at a snails pace right now.

Sleep doesn't help. It's been two and a half months and I'm just now starting to have dreams about her.

But we will get through it.

 

Just think, all the red flags we chose to ignore, all the BS we put up with. Now we know.

 

This hurt really hurts.

But think about it. We have freaking computers to type on while other humans are starving to death or being blown up by car bombs or others are in jail.

 

We will be OK.

 

Six billion people on the earth. Can you imagine what six billion looks like.

How many strans of hair on your head? Not near six billion.

 

Just remember, we are not afraid to love and that is what is important.

We are not afraid.

[Cyprian]

Great post.

 

I hate that. Time is going at a snails pace right now.

 

Yeah, time is worse now than it was in high school when you literally watch a clock and the second hand mocks you with it's slow ticking...

 

But think about it. We have freaking computers to type on while other humans are starving to death or being blown up by car bombs or others are in jail.

 

Whenever I feel horrible, I remind myself of such things. I might think I have it bad right now, but millions of people are in much worse conditions.

 

...

 

I'm not afraid, but I certainly am apprehensive.

[insofar]

Four months in, and I can definitely tell you, it gets better. A lot better.

 

Time will speed back up, and you'll stop thinking about them as much. But it does speed up the process to socialize and to build up a life outside of the ex.

 

You'll be OK.

[elithepi]

About the time slowing at a snails pace.....

I was thinking.

As we age and get older, many of us complain about how time flies.

Soooo, if it's slow now, make the best out of the slow time!

Put all this in favor of us!

David Byrne (lead singer of the Talking Heads) once wrote, "It's the truly sad people that get the most out of life."

 

Empower this pain and take that energy (it's draining to cry) toward self improvement.

When I first encountered the breakup, I wanted to do things about myself to impress her.

Mountain climbing, be an astronaut, save the world, become a rock star...

What ever.

She's gone.

Now...... what do I really want to do?

That is the question for all of us.

 

Alone again and what will make US happy with ourselves?

 

Think about it people.

You may find the one you love forever and suddenly they may be gone despite their desire.

 

The lesson here is, we MUST be happy with ourselves.

[caro33]

Good for you

[distroyed one]

Everyone around me is happy and in love, they have someone to love them.. I don't even go out any more, I feel like sixth finger with all those couples.. I'm not complaining about having all these time to spend with myself.. It is hell that someone else thinks that I'm such unlovable person and he left without regret, being now happy with someone else..

Going crazy