what does men attire to a woman

[Belgian girl]

I think several general things could be:

 

- big personality

- charisma

- good health / athletic body / good hygiëne / beautiful roundings

- a little hard to get / not easy to understand

- (a little) mysterious

- could talk about interesting and several topics

- the way she moves

- sure of herself, taking initiative, being independent

- goes her own way, has an own life, doesn't claim or talk about things tha bore

- good habits

- used to going on with boys and understand how they think / what they need

- knows a lot of latest news

- doesn't give in in things immediately

- is social

- knows a lot of strategies

 

(I understand that it depends from men to men and also that there will be cultural differences but I'ld like to have an expanded list so I can find things to work at b/c I feel like I'm not complete / doing things wrong)

[ghost69]

-humorous matters a lot to me

-open-minded/willing to try new things

-into fitness is key

-independent

-outgoing

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[SquareWheel]

Of the choices you offered, the ones that would most appeal to me are assertiveness (I love assertive women!), and an interesting personality.

 

Women who play it cool, or play hard to get, would turn me off. I much prefer someone who's open and friendly. If she's too aloof, or isn't very open, I'd assume she wasn't interested and I'd give up.

 

On the other hand, nothing would turn me on more than an woman who openly shows interest in me.

 

But don't give too much weight to my opinions, I'm not a very typical guy.

[g1234567890h]

What I like to see in a girl.

 

A healthy body, heart, and mind.

Mindfulness.

Willingness to give of herself.

Sensitivity.

An open mind and heart.

Kindness.

Sense of humor.

Goals.

Good self-esteem.

Good with kids (I personally won't date someone who isn't good with kids. I'm a preschool teacher.)

[AwdreeHpburn]

what does this mean "What does men attire to a woman?"

 

I'm not at all trying to be rude. I simply don't understand the question.

[ghost69]

i think she is foreign, but i think i know what it means. it means what does a man find attractive or 'go for' in a woman.

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[Belgian girl]

thank you for explain it in my place, that's right (I'm, from Belgium). I was mistaken. Thanks for the reactions. Does political direction mean a lot (if it's different)? Does the financial situation mean a lot (if it's different)?

[Belgian girl]

and then there are also the gender differences I mean, how good she umnderstands them.

[real2]

1) Nice face

2) Nice body.

3) Doesnt act like a dude.*

 

*girls that act and drink like a guy, and have a similar personality to a frat-house dude are a huge turnoff. She has to act like a typical girl would.

 

Otherwise 1 + 2 =

[Northalius]

Of course, there's not one type all guys will like. It's like apples vs. oranges vs. bananas vs. cherries vs. lemons vs. limes vs. ... oh, I'm sure you get the point.

 

Okay, now for my personal preferences, as to what I like my woman to be:

 

I like a meek, modest woman; one who is not full of herself! Cockiness is one of the ultimate turn-offs to me.

 

When I see that sensitive girl sitting there, eyes to the ground, my heart melts, and I want to hold her in my arms, comfort her, and give her reassurance that I truly care.

 

I like a woman that does not act! She better be herself, or she'll be without me!

 

I like a woman that can let go and kid around, when the time is right. One can be like a child, play around, and still be an adult! Everything in moderation, of course. There's time to work, but then time to play!

 

A good sense of humor is awesome!

 

I like a woman that is also philosophical, and yearns for wisdom. Talk about deep thoughts, not always shallow chatty stuff. She has to be a deep person.

 

I like a woman to strongly hold high the commitment she has to her partner.

 

I like a woman that can be very romantic.

 

I like a woman that has a certain amount of understanding.

 

I like a woman that is hard to get, not simply plays it. I don't like games when it comes to a relationship. I don't like easy girls.

 

I like a woman with a certain amount of patience.

 

I like a woman that constantly seeks to better herself emotionally.

 

I like a conservative woman, for the most part.

 

I like a woman that is not afraid to openly communicate with me all of her feelings about our relationship!

 

I do not want a woman that dresses up skimpy, simply for sexual attention.

 

I do not want a woman that drinks to get drunk simply to escape reality.

 

I do not want a woman that smokes cigarettes.

 

I certainly do not want a woman that does drugs.

 

I like a woman that really likes who she is... but not in a cocky way, of course. If she likes who she is, and still wants to be committed to me, as I am to her, then she shows me I am truly worth her time! I like that a lot!

 

I like a woman that doesn't care for, and actually despises, porn in a relationship.

 

I do not want a woman that thinks about sex all of the time. There's a time and place for making love! Like other things I said above: all in moderation.

 

Last, but certainly not least:

 

I like a woman that likes their man to be a lot like what I stated above... because it's how I am.

[Belgian girl]

thanks, that long answer gave some good points to pay attention to for me.

What about sexual history (maybe not the best topic to ask for but it goes on my mind the last time.. for ex. I find the idea that my partner has done that before (even that) disgusting especially if it wasn't out of love and / or with a lot of people / very often), but I'm already changing my mind a little (maybe it also was b/c of being jealous)?

[Northalius]

History can say a lot about a person. So, if she has been with a lot of men, it's a turn off for me personally. Like I said above in my first post, I don't like easy women. Perverts and guys that don't seek a long term relationship love easy women.

 

Remember, I'm giving you my preference and opinion; not saying this is how all men are, nor even the majority. At least, in my country (U.S.), a lot seem to be much more open here...

[MissTee]

Northalius... just curious... Are you a Virgo??

[Northalius]

Northalius... just curious... Are you a Virgo??

 

I was born on February 2nd. So, as they say, I'm an Aquarius. But, I never pay attention to stuff like that.

 

I don't know, it's just not my style, I guess.

[MissTee]

Ahhh.... aquarius... my perfect match (apparently).

 

My bf is a virgo... and you just sounded virgo-ish in your first post - you know the one with the long list of preferences

[Northalius]

Ahhh.... aquarius... my perfect match (apparently).

 

My bf is a virgo... and you just sounded virgo-ish in your first post - you know the one with the long list of preferences

 

I see. I always did like to be as detailed as possible, even when I talk in real life. I notice this, as well, and openly ask them if I'm talking too much sometimes. We both laugh about it, usually.

 

I hope people don't get the wrong idea by me being so detailed. This is simply what would be 'a lucky find' for me, if there was the chance. But, I'm not so picky when it comes to reality.

 

Some traits for me are "musts" to be there; others aren't, but hoped to be worked on, as long as I see effort to do so. That's how I'd expect the girl I meet to be toward me, as well. Everyone has downsides to them, obviously including myself. As long as there's effort to change for the better, then there's the key for me.

[MissTee]

Don't worry... My standards are ridiculous.

 

Just the way my Mum brought me up.

 

But I very very very happy with my boy... warts n' all!

[Belgian girl]

thank you again

I like your points and I understood that it isn't general (at all), but b/c it suits mine I can use them

here also the majority seems to be very open, it's b/c of that I asked that question

I don't know so well anymore how to go on with that (b/c why should I want/handle different than almost everyone.. and doing it for myself won't be a reason anymore as well, I think). Now I ask myself (I think I am/was 'an easy girl', well, I've never given in into sex(though I've been together for 9months and I really would have liked that with other boys who asked as well), so maybe not that easy, but I give a relationship/flirt quiete easy a chance, I ask myself what would happen if I stop doing that and make up more limits and higher expectations (like the most girls do), and if it would make me less easy to get and if it makes me attracted by other boys (who don't doesn't want a relationship except having sex)..

[Belgian girl]

I also think having the right/same kind of humor is very important

and I like it when someone could do unexpected things

not claiming and nog being too jealous is also important I think

[Belgian girl]

I would like to get my list expanded so I can work at it for myself

I also think it's positive to be 'remarkable' (in a group of people)

someone who can 'defend' herself (in words)

someone with an own opinion, strong caracter

someone who is 'popular' could maybe help against his shy feelings (?)

[Belgian girl]

if someone knows anything to improve myself / could critisize me, I would like it as well