Ruined1607307531 Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 OK, let me know what you think here. I was involved in a long term relationship with a wonderful woman. I met a young, wild and hot girl who blew me away. We started hanging out and before you knew it we started hooking up. A month into it my girl found out and left, hers - well, she still hasn't figured it out. It's now 6 months into it and she now says that she can't do it anymore...that is, play both relationships and she states we just have to be "friends" now. How are you supposed to step backwards like this? She says one day she knows we can be friends the way I want it to be but it just can't happen now...what the F(*( is that!! I can't do it. I think she is just young and confused, but this time I think she's serious and it's killing me. I know she loves me but now all of a sudden she's "not in love with me", but she's not in love with her gf or she wouldn't have done this for 6 months - am I right here? Please tell me what you think! Link to comment
EvaGina Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 Your really angry at someone for staying with their partner over you? I think your just angry that you got what you deserve. your partner left you, followed by your mistress. Dont resent your mistress for realising her mistake and wanting to do the best by her girlfriend. You are in no place to be mad at anyone, you had an affair... Link to comment
HellFrost666 Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 Your really angry at someone for staying with their partner over you? I think your just angry that you got what you deserve. your partner left you, followed by your mistress. Dont resent your mistress for realising her mistake and wanting to do the best by her girlfriend. You are in no place to be mad at anyone, you had an affair... Sorry, but I agree 100%. You made your bed, now lay in it. Link to comment
Ruined1607307531 Posted February 2, 2007 Author Share Posted February 2, 2007 Ok, no - i'm not mad at her...just confused. We have an undeniable connection, something that is not there with her current gf and never will be. I know that she likes me. She's said to me she just doesn't know what to do..She says sometimes I want to be with you and others with her. Sometimes I feel that she thinks she owes her gf something or shes worried about what will happen if she leaves her. But we're really never going to know if she doesn't give it a chance, do you understand what i'm saying? Link to comment
EvaGina Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 she probably knows that although she has a connection with you, your not good together in the long run. just because you have intense feelings for someone, it doesnt mean that you should be together she shouldnt be with either of you, shes being selfish Link to comment
Ruined1607307531 Posted February 2, 2007 Author Share Posted February 2, 2007 OK so when she says stuff to me like this, I'm just supposed to let it go and not fight for her? I KNOW SOME DAY WE’LL BE FRIENDS THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE, BUT AT THIS TIME I SEE NO WAY. I AM TRULY SORRY, BELIEVE ME WHEN I SAY I AM. AND IT WAS NEVER A QUESTION ABOUT MISSING YOU, BECAUSE I DO EVERY DAY. I MISS THE CONNECTION WE HAD, BECAUSE IT WAS UNDENIABLE. I MISS THE TIMES WE HAD, BECAUSE THEY WERE GREAT. I MISS THE INTIMACY BECAUSE IT WAS FUN. BUT I CAN NOT PLAY BOTH SIDES ANYMORE. Link to comment
EvaGina Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 is that what she wrote to you? She has made her choice... respect it Link to comment
HellFrost666 Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 Do you think maybe the honeymoon ended with you and now she realizes she made a mistake? She probably wants to salvage her relationship before it is too late. Link to comment
Ruined1607307531 Posted February 2, 2007 Author Share Posted February 2, 2007 I honestly just think she is young and doesn't know what to do. I didn't mention the 14 yr age difference did I? lol. I think she gets lost some times. I think that she has plans for her life and I wasn't supposed to be in them and now she is running because it's easier. Link to comment
shadow34 Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 " I cannot play both sides anymore "... Perhaps she realised that yes she has feelings for you, attraction , whatever, heck love who knows........ But we dont always have to act on our emotions, especially at the expense of any one else........... Do unto others as you would have them do unto you..... Dont "think" about whats shes feeling, you will drive yourself nuts... there is such a thing as Karma, I hate to sound harsh but you do the wrong thing and it comes back at you...I can understand how you feel... But I have to say I really dont think she is being selfish, didnt you do the exact thing to your ex... As for doing it for 6 months....She'd do it for 60 months if its something she wants to get away with ..... Link to comment
applejack Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 I have been in a relationship similar to this. And it was with a woman 14 years my senior. I basically took her away from a woman that she'd been in a relationship with for over 10 years. They had also been friends for over 20 years. I got a divorce so that I could be with this woman. She and I broke up and she moved on very quickly. Hmmm....makes me wonder. Anyway, what I am trying to say is: maybe she is thinking, "how can I trust someone that I took away from someone else?". I don't want to sound harsh, but perhaps she is concerned about fidelity? Just a thought. Link to comment
coffeeformylover Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 Aside from my feelings and what I think about what you did...I will say this. Maybe she doesn't know who she wants to be with right now. It sounds like she might have feelings for both of you. Just let her go her own way and if she really wants to be with you then she will come back. It will be hard, but you can't force her to do something that she doesn't want to do. Link to comment
Ruined1607307531 Posted February 3, 2007 Author Share Posted February 3, 2007 Well, I know that she doesnt know who she wants. Shes told me sometimes i want to be with you and others with her. I am letting her do her own thing and figure it out but its hard. she still wants to be friends. I have no problem with that, but when we're together she is always so touchy feely it makes it super hard not to try to cross that friendship line. But then again i love it, like a dumb * * * i still hang around Link to comment
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