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applejack

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  1. Try comments like: "You taste and smell soooo good!" Because it is true. It could be that she has a difficult time having an orgasm during the act. If that is the case, then you need to let her teach you what she likes. Notice I said...."let HER teach YOU.". You may have made 100 different women climax violently with your tongue before, but if it isn't happening with her, then you need to let her tell you what she likes. With some effort and her instruction, odds are, eventually, you will get her off. And if she cannot have an orgasm during cunnilingus....well....there are other things that the two of you can try. Good vibrations....if you know what I mean. I've yet to meet a woman who denies that she climaxes with a vibrator. Above all...don't stress about it. It will make her more anxious, and good luck getting her to come after that. If you two are really in love, you will make it work. Relax and have fun!
  2. Mmmmmmm....not me. My ex SO and I met online. We lived 600 miles apart and we knew before we met that there was tremendous chemistry between us. And phone sex.....if you aren't shy, can be absolutely torrid. I'm blushing just thinking about it. I think that phone sex especially, is a very healthy sexual activity. Because you have to be very comfortable with your sexuality and telling you lover, in colorful terms, exactly what you want and how you want it. If you haven't tried it......you do not know what you are missing.
  3. Thank God you made yourself throw up. Don't do this to yourself. If you want to sleep with other women that is your business. Don't feel guilty. This is your life, and you only have one. You will experience something near heaven. Another woman will come into your life and she will blow your mind. She will open your eyes to things that you've never seen. Give it some time. Eventually you will meet someone else, and will be laughing at yourself and how you feel right now. And you will be thinking' "and I thought that I would never meet anyone else! Boy was I wrong!". This is the first day of the rest of your life. Take the ball and run with it. \\
  4. You have many reasons to live. You must give yourself time to heal. You are young, and have many years ahead of you. There will be more women. I know that you think that you will not meet anyone else, but you will!!! And she will be even more wonderful than this one was. Get out there and explore your interests. The world is a big place, and it is full of wonderful things and fascinating people. Don't restrict yourself to one place or one thing. If she wants to move on, let her. Get plenty of rest. If you cannot sleep see a physician about some sleeping pills Eat right-keep you nutrition balanced. Do some physical activity-maybe at the gym, hiking, skiing...try something new....this is a good way to meet new people!!! Allow yourself to get angry...but not to the point that you think of committing a crime. Think of it as her loss, but don't hold a grudge. Move on! Don't call her, don't email her, don't text her, don't send smoke signals, don't try to summon her in your mind. Let her go. (she will wonder what happened to you) And do not make any drastic changes in your life. Just go with the flow. It sucks and we've all been there. Keep your chin up and be proud of who you are. You life will go on...you just have to start anew. Try new things and meet as many people as possible.
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  6. When these older people were younger, marriage was the only way. Cohabitation and pre-marital sex were taboo. And they were taught that you stick it out in a marriage, and don't run at the first sign of trouble. After all, that is what marriage is. I think that the reason many marriages end in divorce is the obvious...people are not truly in love when they marry. Note that I said many, not all. They marry someone just because they've been with them for 3 years, and they think that it is just the thing to do. I don't buy the crap about "they've dated too long". If there are problems in a partnership, they will eventually surface whether a couple is married or dating. When would you rather it happen? To answer you question...how long should you date someone?: When you find the right person, there will be no reservations. You will be in tune with them at every level. There will be no cold feet the night before the wedding. You will feel joy, and excitement at the thought of spending your lives together. Everything will just feel right. Everything. If everything does not feel right, DO NOT MARRY!!! Just from personal experience....if you don't feel in sync with them at 6 months, you aren't going to feel it at 6 years. Move on, and keep searching-even if you have to wait until you are 40.
  7. WHat do you like to do hobbywise? Do you play music, work on cars, yoga?
  8. That is some good advice about letting him down easy, and not telling him about what has been going on. Is it possible that you love him, but not in a partnership way? That being the case, it sounds like you have a great friend. If you are having these feelings, and cravings for other men, then you need to give yourself some time to get those feelings out of your system. Get out of that relationship, and stay single for awhile. There is someone out there that you WILL fall in love with, and when that happens you WILL know. You will not want to be unfaithful to them...even in thought.
  9. Jeez guy...I can relate...I've been there. What do you like to do hobbywise?
  10. I think that first of all, you should leave the class references out...in terms of her being lower-middle class. If you have made frequent mention of this to her, it probably made her feel inferior to you. What does that have to do with anything? Okay....and she has given you "5 chances" to stop asking questions. When 2 people are in love, they love each other and learn to live with the imperfections of their partners. You two are quite young, and perhaps you weren't right for each other. Or maybe you could both try it again when you are a few years older. And remember this abovc everything else: the more you beg, the further you are going to push her away. If she has made up her mind that it is over, then you need to start planning how you are going to get through it. You are who you are and you aren't going to change overnight. Give yourself some time, and her some time to see if the problems will fix themselves.
  11. Remember that there is someone out there that will appreciate you, love you, and will be faithful to you. Keep you chin up. The sun will shine again!!!
  12. If you are not eating, and you are having trouble sleeping...then my advice is to go and see a doctor. If it doesn't get any better and you are obsessing about it at night, see a doc and see if you can get something to help you sleep. Perhaps antidepressants would be beneficial. Just make sure that if you decide to take them that you do the follow-up appointments, as they sometimes have the opposite from intended effect. Go talk to someone, and stay busy. Take up a new hobby...one where you will have the opportunity to meet new people. I know that it feels like your life is over right now, but I promise you that you WILL heal. And when all of this is over with, you will be a stronger person. You will meet another wonderful woman. The world is full of them. Give yourself time to mourn, and then get yourself out there and meet some new people!!! Hope this helps.
  13. I have been in a relationship similar to this. And it was with a woman 14 years my senior. I basically took her away from a woman that she'd been in a relationship with for over 10 years. They had also been friends for over 20 years. I got a divorce so that I could be with this woman. She and I broke up and she moved on very quickly. Hmmm....makes me wonder. Anyway, what I am trying to say is: maybe she is thinking, "how can I trust someone that I took away from someone else?". I don't want to sound harsh, but perhaps she is concerned about fidelity? Just a thought.
  14. It sounds like she is sick individual. And like the other posters said: not all women are like her. Don't give up!
  15. He may have admitted it to himself and to his other friends, but he may not be ready to admit it to you. Being a lesbian, I can tell you that I had the feelings for 11 years before acting on them. And it was about 13-14 before I told even some of my closest friends. The only people that knew about my sexual preference for sure, were my new "friends".
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