How to spot men that are materialistic?

[betrayedgirl]

Im not sure if this is the right forum, but I hope so.

 

I am just lonesome and hoping to find someone soon but I am not worried about that because I am not looking. I believe when you are not looking, he will find you. That has happened a couple times.

 

Anyway four months ago I was dumped by guy mostly because he thinks I wasn't a great kisser.

 

I also found a hidden reason, after he dumped me, he updated his profile to say "NO CONDOS, NO APARTMENTS, NO TOWNHOUSES, NO DUPLEXS, MUST HAVE A HOUSE.", and also a woman must have a good car! I own a condominium, and I also own a pretty new car (2003) He owns a house himself but wants to sell it and move in with a woman (he did ask me if he could move in with me.. i was taken aback.. said it was too soon) ...

 

and i re-read all the emails we exchanged prior to meeting.. (we dated only two weeks but it was intense one)... that I overlooked the red flags ](*,) such as on his 2nd email to me asking me if I owned a house or is it an apartment .. I answered "I just bought a home 7 months ago".. never mentioned it was a condo until later... he asked me about my credit, if I had a big screen tv, etc etc etc... asked me how I can afford all the trips I took (I took 4 trips this 2006) ... etc... I was so stupid to overlook it..

 

Now do you think he was too materialistic?

 

Thanks..

[Suzy-TO]

YES, he does sound materialistic, and abit of an. Sorry but who cares what you drive, where you live, what kind of credit you have. You want someone who will be with you, even if you have nothing. You sound like a wonderful person, you deserve soooooooo much better than this guy.

[betrayedgirl]

Thanks! YEa I know. It was the first time I have experienced a very shallow guy!

[Batya33]

More to the point he was rude and tactless - and perhaps mentally unstable- worse than being materialistic!

 

The early dates are a good opportunity to see how he handles and thinks about money. Is he generous even if all you do is meet for coffee- i.e. does he ask if you want something other than coffee, does he complain about the price of the coffee or prices of things in general? Does he tell stories about women who have dated him just for his money, or who were materialistic? (sign of cheapness, not materialism but all under the general category of "money."

[Suzy-TO]

I agree with Batya33-----

He's not a keeper....

 

 

[keenan]

Wow ~ he sounds like a total user ~ the kind of guy who, when he gets older, will prey on older women...trying to "win" their love and then their inheritance and life insurance policy! What a creep.

[betrayedgirl]

Yes he is bipolar....

 

he complained about the money he spent on us in the two weeks we dated... I got pissed off and returned part of the money to him and he didn't even thank me until days later! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!

[renaissancewoman101]

What a cad, he actually COMPLAINED about how much money he spent on you while dating????? If I were you, I wouldn't have given him part of the money. That is just so stupid of him. What a gold digger. No tact at all.

[betrayedgirl]

I know.. he's a !

That's why I am learning how to spot those kind of guys and to RUN! LOL

 

SO I'm looking at this as my dating experience.

[redandblack]

This guy was definitely quite tacky and selfish. You should be glad that you found this out as soon as you did as opposed to way down the road. A relationship with this guy would have been like a relationship with a ghost: one sided.

[annie24]

oh, I remember your post from before. we decided he was a jerk and a loser.

 

PS - I think the profile is HILARIOUS. I doubt he'll get any bites with it. What self-respecting woman would answer such a ridiculous ad?

[Siriana]

Wow, what a psycho!

I hate cheap guys - I dated one once. Blaaaaah, awfull.

[Timebandit]

Looking on the positive side, you did find out that he was a selfish, materialistic jerk, in two weeks, rather than 10 years and 2 kids down the road.

 

That is what dating is for!