confused.fallen Posted October 25, 2006 Share Posted October 25, 2006 Kay so ive posted before about my situatin, now i ahve come out of my shell enough that i can be myself most of the time, just one problem, i cant talk top the girl i have feelings for. i would give anything to but everytime i go to say something my throat gets causght and i stutter something thats barley audible and then i jsut pass it off as a grunt. i can talk to girls no problem now which is way different then the start of the year but this gril just takes my breath away and also anywords i might say. i am finding this weird becasue even when i was to shy to talk i never had a shortage of words but with her i can never quite spit it out, ive been told she thinks im average to good looking and im funny when i do talk but i can never talk to her she alwasy ove3rhears me, when she sometimes says something to me ill mutter a yes or something and just smile stupidly, i need to know whats wrong why cant i talk to her and also is their anyway i can or girls what would you do if their was someone lik eme ? Link to comment
Dako Posted October 25, 2006 Share Posted October 25, 2006 Take deep breaths, keep it brief and speak slowly. I had some stuttering in my past, and a few books and time made a difference. Since you stutter under stress, therapy might be overkill. Speech is a difficult matter, and practice helps. Over time. you'll be more relaxed. I sure understand how self consciousness and excitement can make it hard to talk to a pretty lady. Link to comment
confused.fallen Posted October 25, 2006 Author Share Posted October 25, 2006 kay thanks i will try it but this si the first time ive encountered stuttering im usually fluent and always have a retort she just gets me red faced and happy and then i cant speak but thanks ill try to slow it down anymore suggestions? Link to comment
vesper Posted October 25, 2006 Share Posted October 25, 2006 its ok, I stutter sometimes too when I am put on the spot, hard to find the right words sometimes so you just focus on trying to finish one! ha ha. Link to comment
CharmedphoenixRising Posted October 25, 2006 Share Posted October 25, 2006 hey. A friend of mine used to have a really bad stutter, and he finally went for speech therapy which really helped. and he doesn't have a problem speaking to anyone now (except me though?) He said something about saying a few words in one breath, then stopping for a few seconds (sorry I can't quite remember it now) but don't fret, you can stop stuttering Link to comment
Stinkweed Posted October 25, 2006 Share Posted October 25, 2006 I think I'm developing some sort of stutter myself... Man after getting out of my comfort zone and becoming a pretty sociable guy by the end of HS, now I'm just degressing and getting worse than ever before (well at least my knees don't shake when I'm doing a presentation)... I can't even be around people anymore. I just feel like sitting in a corner like homeless people do, and just sleeping there... waiting to either freeze to death or just for everyone else to leave. I'm sorry, I just happen to be goin through one of them bad moments... Link to comment
Dating Coach Posted October 25, 2006 Share Posted October 25, 2006 Remember that she's just a human being. She farts, goes No.2, belches, is smelly when she doesn't shower, can be selfish, etc just like the rest of us. She's just a human, not a goddess who's going to throw a lightning bolt at you if you don't please her. Nothing to be scared of. Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted October 25, 2006 Share Posted October 25, 2006 I think that's a totally normal response to being nervous. You're going to have to work thru the nervousness and learn to be OK with her - or start taking anti-anxiety meds. But I think you can do it on yer own... Link to comment
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