SeaBisquit Posted October 11, 2006 Share Posted October 11, 2006 hello. last nite i went out to a club with a bunch of my friends. I met up with this guy that I had formerly had a one night stand with. I told the guy from the very beginning that we could be nothing more than friends because we were not right for each other. He said that was cool and agreed to just be friends. last nite and a few times before I had the oppurtunity to meet someone that would be right for me. last nite, I met a really nice guy and while we were dancing ( Jeff, the guy I had a one night stand with) kept grabbing my butt and putting his hands around me. I kept telling him to knock it off and it was making the other guy quite jealous. I tried explaining that we were just friends. He got upset and said it looked like just wanted to be alot more than friends. I have talked with Jeff sevewral times and have told him to keep his hands off me. i don't know what more I could say to Jeff to get him to back off. but to make along story short i lost another good guy and this continues to happen. Link to comment
Dako Posted October 11, 2006 Share Posted October 11, 2006 You could have a bouncer show Jeff the door. That's part of their job. Link to comment
trash mail Posted October 11, 2006 Share Posted October 11, 2006 my advice. Be a * * * * *. Tell him to {mod edit} off and if he touches you again you're going to kick him in the nuts and you mean it. You dont want to know him anymore. He'll get pissed, but if he isnt anything to you, you didnt lose anything. Link to comment
SeaBisquit Posted October 11, 2006 Author Share Posted October 11, 2006 it's annoying as hell because everytime i go out and start dancin with a guy Jeff comes up and goes right behind me. then the guy i'm dancing with think that jeff and i are an item. i, know he does it on purpose and it's getting really annoying. Link to comment
Clementine orange Posted October 11, 2006 Share Posted October 11, 2006 You've told him loud and clear and he's not getting the message. I agree with the other poster - tell the bouncer. Kicking him in the balls may work too but make sure you have witnesses that will back you up that this guy is harassing you. You shouldn't have to put up with this. What a jerk! Link to comment
SeaBisquit Posted October 11, 2006 Author Share Posted October 11, 2006 yes i know and the story gets better. the guy i liked ended up going home with my friend. Link to comment
trash mail Posted October 11, 2006 Share Posted October 11, 2006 erh, i have another idea. If he get up behind you again, reach behind you a grab his nut and squeeze... dont let go till he buckles. Then look him in the eyes and says, "i told you not to do that ever again didnt i?" 2 things can happen there, the guy you fancy will stand up for you and admire your guts for being able to handle yourself. OR the guy that you like will think you are NUTS!! and AVOID YOU! from my point of view yo win either way cos jeff will not be hanging round you anymore. Link to comment
SeaBisquit Posted October 11, 2006 Author Share Posted October 11, 2006 yes. i'm not one for violence but it's high time you go kung-fu on his litttle nutsack. Link to comment
Maverick32x Posted October 11, 2006 Share Posted October 11, 2006 tell the bouncer... simple as that..... its unwanted harassement.. and you've made it VERY clear that you don't want him to do it anymore..... also, make sure you dont do it in a "joking" way... I've seen a lot of girls just kind of laugh itoff, and it usually just reinforces his behavior... so be SERIOUS. get mad!!! lol good luck;; Link to comment
chai714 Posted October 11, 2006 Share Posted October 11, 2006 All these comments about assaulting this guys crotch area are childish. Don't do it. I like Dako's idea of telling the bouncer. What strikes me about your story is that this "quality" guy went home with your friend. And if your friend knew you liked him, why did she go home with him? What kind of friend is that? Please re-evaluate what constitutes a "quality" man and a "real friend." Link to comment
SeaBisquit Posted October 11, 2006 Author Share Posted October 11, 2006 hi chai she's not to much of a friend and i'm really upset with the whole bunch of them. thing is i'm new to all this dating garbage so they probably think i'm naive as hell. Link to comment
InaneCathode Posted October 11, 2006 Share Posted October 11, 2006 All these comments about assaulting this guys crotch area are childish. Don't do it. I like Dako's idea of telling the bouncer. What strikes me about your story is that this "quality" guy went home with your friend. And if your friend knew you liked him, why did she go home with him? What kind of friend is that? Please re-evaluate what constitutes a "quality" man and a "real friend." ^ wins thread. Link to comment
Considerate Empath Posted October 11, 2006 Share Posted October 11, 2006 My advice: Act like you don't know him and see what happeneds. Maybe some other guy comes in to "protect your honour" and everyone gets in to a huge fight. You and your guy friend sneaks out the back door, run to the ocean at sundown, he looks you deep in the eye and tells you: "That was fun", with a nervous kind of look in his eye... You respond: "I think so too", also nervous, and you start kissing passionately on the beach... My my my! Link to comment
savannahohsavannah Posted October 12, 2006 Share Posted October 12, 2006 Cosmo had an article in the last few years about which ex's you could keep in your life and which were so toxic that you had to let go. I think they said the hook up ex was problematical because your connection was physical and that was hard to change. I fell for this guy online and had to let him go because it turned out that his only feelings for me were *erotic* as he termed it. It sounds like this fella is doing the same thing to you. I hope you dump him pdq. Link to comment
Momene Posted October 20, 2006 Share Posted October 20, 2006 A gun might be useful next time jeff is around. Link to comment
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