I found out he is working with his ex!

[GEMMACHURCH]

Last night I found out that my boyfriend has been working with his ex girlfriend. He mentioned her name a month ago when she started working there, and last night i asked him if it was his ex and he said yes.

He said that it wasnt a big deal and he didnt want to worry me at the time as we were already going through a disagreement and he was worried i would split up with him.

he says she hasnt been his girlfriend since he was 17 (he is 22 now) but i had seen them together a year ago when i was with my old boyfriend. He says there is nothing to worry about and that he was worried about how i would react and that it wasnt an issue for him- they are just friends. He swore that he didnt get her the job there, but im not sure i believe him. He says that if he wanted to be with her he would be with her by now. We had got closer recently and he makes a lot of effort to spend time with me. He is round my house a lot of the time.

We discussed it and he said that it was a lose lose situation if i wouldnt trust him from now on.

I had been worried on the weekend when an old 'friend' called him at 3 in the morning, but he spoke to her like she was a friend. And i told him that i felt he was secretive with his phone sometimes but he didnt seem to see it and said that i had more text and calls than he does.

I agreed to take it as nothing and believe that he is with me for me and doesnt want her, (which is very hard for me because i have had serious issues with trust)

Should i give him the benefit of the doubt? i am very afraid of getting hurt.

He asked me if i wanted to speak to the girl and then joked that she would probaly say there was something going on and he would be in even more trouble! but i wasnt in the mood to feel i could joke about this!

[robowarrior]

I think you should listen to your gut feeling and leave.

[Momene]

I believe what he says when he says if they're meant to be together it would have happened before.

 

However, although nothing sexual may be happening, he could be un healthily close.

[fantas_tique]

well, i think i can relate a little to what u're saying, women just have these instincts that most times turn out to be right. I mean why is she calling him at 3 inthe morning,I wuld be mad too if it were me. Women have to understnad what ex means, it means u're not together anymore, yes yall can be friends, but u ahve to respect the other person's relationhip, at least know what time to call him, not 3 in the morning!

[candy604]

trust him...seems like he cares alot about you and it's shown by his actions.

If he wasn't over her, you'd be seeing alot more than just friends.