Begging for love

[hennypenny3288]

Could people ever see themselves begging someone to love them, to have a relationship with them?

 

Why?

[NJRon]

Umm.. I have seen myself do it... could I see myself do it again? No.

 

Why? Because I respect myself.

[Lady Bugg]

Can't say I've ever BEGGED someone to love me..but I HAVE done things SHORT of that. Calling, chasing , taking crap I shouldn't have, staying much longer when I should have walked away. Either way..it's a destructive way to live.

[hennypenny3288]

If someone didn't love you or want a relationship with you, would you beg for one or a chance at one?

[NJRon]

Why are you asking these questions? There is a difference between praying and begging. Once rejoices... one despairs...

[Lady Bugg]

I would like to say NO HP..but you know what? When we love someone with everything we have...we are liable to do things we NEVER imagined we would...so truthfully I cannot honestly say I wouldn't.

[LoveMatters]

Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't love you? Will you ever be happy if they stay with you only because you beg them to stay?

[hennypenny3288]

At least I will have someone. The goal is not to be alone in life. Maybe they will love you out of pity.

[LoveMatters]

I don't think love out of pity will last long. You might find someone who really loves you and wants to be with you. Don't you think if you stay with a person you beg to stay with, you will miss the chance to meet someone who really wants to be with you?

[grymoire]

Could people ever see themselves begging someone to love them, to have a relationship with them?

 

Why?

 

I didn't beg but I wanted so badly for a girl to want a relationship with me, but she didn't. She adores me, chases me, enjoys being with me, insists on meeting up with me, misses me a lot, ....... but she doesn't want a relationship with me. Can there be anything more horrible?

 

One thing I did learn from this. I realized that I didn't have any control over this girl. I just couldn't get her as a girlfriend. I felt powerless. It then dawned on me that we just cannot control other people.. their behavior and what they want to do. In the same light it occurred that the only person I can control is MYSELF I have now convinced myself not to be interested in this girl EVEN if she wants me. She has caused way too much pain.

[hennypenny3288]

If it didn't work out before, as in the person wasn't interested in you, how will it come off if you beg them to stay? What if you wanted this person very badly?

[Gracelove]

Personally I couldn't see begging someone to love me.

I would feel like I was being bossy, or that I was presuring (spelling?) someone into loving me.

If one thing is for sure, it's that you can't make someone love you.

I guess I've never attempted that before because it seemed pointless.

[hennypenny3288]

Ok then, how do you convince someone to want you?

[Ms. Babydoll]

I can imagine myself doing something close to begging, it took me ages to get my boyfriend to love me, I had to do alot of chasing and flirting first.

 

Why? Because I never give up

[itsallgrand]

I begged once. I loved him with everything, and didn't want to face reality.

Well, I learned my lesson.

I saw his face when I was begging. It was sad for me.

I then felt ashamed.

I had lost some of his respect in that moment, and I had abandoned my own dignity.

 

Oh, it also doesn't work. It can't, even if they 'take you back'.

It isn't consistent with reality and how real relationships work.

 

How do you convince someone to love you?

-You can't.

 

I'm a stubborn sort who has relied on 'winning the point' a lot. It helps at work.

In love and relationships, it doesn't.

We become less lovable the more we try to be right and 'convince'.

 

Sorry, it's a tough lesson to learn and you will learn it in your own time. I only hope you don't have to go down too low to see it.

 

tc

[Confessoress]

Never begged, no. Since that will just turn someone off completely. Hoped, yes... been in personal silent emotional turmoil, yes.

[Momene]

I've tried to cling on to someone who wanted to leave but discovered later it was a waste of time. I found later there were much better girls than her anyway.