What to do if you suspect someone is suicidal..?

[sumguy]

I'll keep this brief, one of my friends had a lot of issues, and she used to tell me about them, at the same time she was paranoid that I wasn't trustworthy, and she was prone to massive moodswings. Fed up and deeply hurt, I terminated the friendship.

 

Expcept her current MSN comment is: "If I had a gun, I'd use it", and the last email she sent me reads like a suicide note...

 

What should I do? Rescind my original decision and go see her? Get other friends to look out for her? Any advice, quotes, anecdotes... hell, condemnation, will be appreciated.

[nottoogreen]

Send her to a psych or here or print/read her this.

 

• You are precious, your life is precious and you deserve to be happy!
  
• Look after your body and love yourself!
  
• When someone hurt or abused you it was not your fault!
  
• You have a future, you always will as long as you do not give up!
  
• You deserve to be understood, but to expect understanding is very foolish.
  
• Regrets are the most difficult feelings to deal with.
  
• Life often is like three steps forward and one step back. Expect setbacks and do not let setbacks bother you. Just move along your chosen path.
  
• Realistic expectations. Carefully consider your expectations as unrealistic expectations breed resentment and set you up for failure.
  
• Be realistic about your ability and carefully consider your ability as your failure to meet your expectations hurts you and may hurt others.
  
• Patience and persistence. Changing any situation or yourself takes time and effort. Changing your feelings takes time and is often painful. It does make sense to endure reasonable pain for a better happier future.
  
• Adaptability of your mind. Your biggest strength is that your mind adapts to what you do often and the more so, the more motivated you are. As you move up, your mental ability increases. This strength is also your biggest weakness as your mental ability decreases when you are frustrated or unmotivated. Your mind also adapts to negative thinking. Thus it is important to think positive!
  
• Break circles of thought. If you realize that you think or fear the same again and again, break out of it by telling yourself: STOP, NO WORRIES. Divert your thoughts away from a circle of thought. The Mental survival activities or Exercise activities below may be of help to distract you.
  
• Mental survival activities. Develop one or more mental activities which can occupy your mind and give you a sense of calmness and accomplishment. One activity should be as simple as possible in order to be performable at any time. Exercise these activities regularly. Examples are: writing poems, writing down feelings, drawing, a journal and reading. Use the Exercise activities below as alternative and for backup. Be prepared and never run out of supplies to perform these activities. These activities train you on focusing your mind and give you a sense of accomplishment.
  
• Exercise activities. Develop an interest in one or more physical activities and perform these regularly. Examples are push-ups, sit-ups, running, swimming and biking. At least have one activity you can perform in your room and one out-door activity. Exercise is healthy and gives you a sense of accomplishment.
  
• Be sure you have enough sleep. Sleep deprivation makes manic and leads to countless secondary problems from anxiety, over-acting, over-excitement, over-thinking to under-performing. If you can't sleep, perform Mental survival activities and/or Exercise activities until you relax enough to fall asleep. Given training and experience, you will relax and fall asleep! No pills needed!
  
• KISS - Keep It Simple Stupid. Do not over-act, over-excite or over-think.
  
• Help - If you have questions or need help, please post or seek professional help!
  

[Hope75]

I'll keep this brief, one of my friends had a lot of issues, and she used to tell me about them, at the same time she was paranoid that I wasn't trustworthy, and she was prone to massive moodswings. Fed up and deeply hurt, I terminated the friendship.

 

Expcept her current MSN comment is: "If I had a gun, I'd use it", and the last email she sent me reads like a suicide note...

 

What should I do? Rescind my original decision and go see her? Get other friends to look out for her? Any advice, quotes, anecdotes... hell, condemnation, will be appreciated.

 

What is her relationship like with her parents? How old is she?

 

Do you feel comfortable telling her parents or someone who is close to her that you think she might be in trouble?

[Dako]

If you can't carry the burden, find someone who can.

Either way, ignoring the problem isn't an option.

 

If you don't know how to negotiate with a suicidal, it's no time to experiment. Get help.

[Spugly Fuglet]

As Dako

Says but this is one where you have to keep and eye on them and get them ASAP to profeshinal help. If they are real bad and I mean real bad report them to a heath worker or Doc if you have no help there then the police. Some times others can ill and need help if you care you will get that help.

[BellaDonna]

The best you can do is tell her that you are so sorry she is feeling that way, and direct her to get professional help. If oyu have her parents contact information, you could tell them, but it might feed into her fears even more:

 

was paranoid that I wasn't trustworthy

 

It's a tough place to be in. But even if she gets mad at you for telling, it could save her life.

 

 

BellaDonna

[sumguy]

Thanks for the help guys, I memorized a few of those things nottogreen posted, grabbed a couple of mates and went to see her.

 

Turns out we arrived just in time =)

[celticghirl]

thats good..when you mean you arrived just in time does that mean she was gonna do something to herself?

[sumguy]

Those were her words, I really don't want to read into it... ;_;

[nottoogreen]

Please Print it for her and she should get started on Mental survival exercises.

 

Can you send her here, please tell her where you got what you told her from and that we look forward to talk to her. It might be the positive argument she needs. No need to give her your handle. You just found the site. You could also ask a moderator to delete this thread.

 

Please don't push her, she needs understanding and gentle encouragement.

[xoxevanescencexox]

 

Expcept her current MSN comment is: "If I had a gun, I'd use it", and the last email she sent me reads like a suicide note...

 

 

OK everyone almost in there life were think about suicide in there life, I even did..

Just talk to but wat ever you do dont ask any friends about wat is happen if anythin it would make it worse in my oppion.