In What Stage of Grief Are You?

[blueberrypie]

I just hit 5 two days after I read this quote:

I dont miss him, I miss who I thought he was.

It takes time for me to digest it, but it felt so true. I'm not sure if he's the person I think who he was any more. I think that's one of the reasons why I was/am depressed. But it's also good because I didn't lose anything by losing, I just made a mistake when I judge him. I just need to improve my judge skill. (Or I'm in denial about my feeling.)

I still experiencing 4, but not sure any more if it's because of the breakup.

hope I wouldn't go back to 4 that often or any other stage. I'll probably will, but I feel good now.

[blemished]

I just hit the first chord of Stage 5 this morning and I feel like throwing myself a party!

 

blueberry-- isn't it chilling to take it one step further (no pun intended), and say, maybe I never knew who he was in the first place? Maybe I imagined all along he was that person and now his true colors have shown?

[Belle]

I vacillate between 4 and 5. I was mostly in 2 for the last month but the anger has dissipated and it's left with 4 mostly.

 

I know there's no going back. But there are still painful feelings tied up in it.

[amazing_wierdo]

I keep bouncing back and forth between feelings of anger, sadness, betrayal, pain, guilt, and regret. It has not been a system where I cleanly feel one for 7 days then onto the next. Should I be going through these stages in the proper order?

[blueberrypie]

blemished: it's tempting. But I still want to believe that not all of him was real. There was some part of him which was real, but I began to lose balance.

It's what I want to believe anyways.

[Silentlyfor]

I'm in a stage where there is a transtion between depression and acceptance.

[Silentlyfor]

I don't miss him, I miss who I thought he was.

 

That's how I feel btw.