Should I stay or should I go?

[safeplay]

This is what happened: I meet this girl in a bar it was perfect there was only 5 people and we started talking... She was 21 I was 27 now she's 22 and I am 28. Anyway, we started dating and everything was great, the best time of my life and she felt the same. We moved in after 2 month. However, from day one these were always something that was not making any sense. Her story's, events... sometimes were questionable. She shouldn't let me see her apartment for 2 month and she always had an excuse why not. I would find things that just didn't make sense at all and she would come up with an answer that didn't make sense to me. (I'm one of those people who will question things when they don't make sense). So after 6 month dating and not thinking much of it all, we started telling each other "I love you" and I loved her more then anything in this world I would do anything... and she said the same... So shortly after that time like 2 weeks she told me that she was pregnant, but she was too young to have it... we both agreed. Here its all comes: she tells me that it may take a few weeks for her to take a pill and to have the non-surgical procedure... I didn't believe that either... anyway on night she tells me that she is going to be working late and she may get off around 11:30 pm, she didn't come home that night, I called her work the next morning and asked what time did she get off they said 9:00 pm, I was so pissed... I busted her because she told me she got sick and stayed at the motel next to her work; I find that hard to believe... The next week she told that she was invited to their employee party but I couldn't come cause it was employees only... when she comes home at 2:00 am she tells me that it wasn't an employees party at all she mixed up the dates and I could have came but she left her cell in the call and couldn't call me or get my calls 5 of them in 4 hours. Two days later I spot a hickey on her neck which she didn't know about her self. She was shocked to see it n the mirror and she tells me that I did it, I don't remember doing that, there is 10% I could have but I don't think I did. We haven't been the same since that. Also, 3 month into to our relation ship she came home around 4:30 am after work and told me that she got a flat on the highway and her cell phone died and she had to walk to next exit to get fix a flat and then drove home. I didn't believe that either. And these were a few more incidents like that. The funny thing is she does a lot of things for me... cleaning when she is home laundry... cook... she got me $400 worth of presents for my birthday and I did the same for her, it seems that she would do anything for me... Help!!!! What should I do? HELP!!!!

[cacain119]

I'd sit down and talk with her. Tell her about these things.. it's OBVIOUS she's lying. So you need to just sit down, talk to her, let her know that you know she's lying, and talk to her about trust, and how important it is to have in a relationship, etc etc... You MAY be able to make it work. My boyfriend and I went through a similar time at our year and half point.. we've now been together for 4 years and are the closest we've ever been. There was a period of absolutely NO trust for about a year though. We have to build that back up, and it just takes time. She needs to let you know where she's at, at all times (that should just be a regular safety thing -- what happens if something happens to her or you and you can't get ahold of one another?)... If she's going out, she needs to let you know where, and it's VERY suspicious that you can't come along. That's bull. I know that, because I used that excuse....

 

Just talk to her, evaluate the relationship -- if she can't/won't change... You need to move on.

[safeplay]

I posted this b4 I just wanted second opinion. She told me that she wants to be with me.... We are doing a bit better now, but we are not at 100% or even close, we haven’t had sex in about 2 weeks because she said that I was a dck to her, because of my jealousy. I am improving on that issue, she tells me to come with her everywhere, and she tells everyone that she is with me... she works at the bar near my apartment and I'm trying to fix things.

[kellbell]

Hi there,

 

I have always believed is when a person has a reason for everything or an explaination for everything, something is wrong. It sounds like your girlfriend has a reason for EVERYTHING but does a horrible job covering her tracks. If you have every reason not to trust her and truly feel she is cheating, I would leave her. Chances are, you are not going to get the truth from her if you asked for it.

 

As far as her doing things for you like she has is hardly enough, doing laundry and buying expensive gifts? She may be doing those things out of guilt. Furthermore, you need a girlfriend, not a mother.

 

Take care and good luck.

[Setter5]

Run!!!!!!!!!!!

[Belle]

Unless you signed up to be with a lying cheat, I'd go with what Setter said.