teacup Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 pressures you to drink, and gets u drunk hoping to sleep with you? Link to comment
hoping Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 a fcking immature, self-obsorbed, and above all, DISRESPECTFUL guy. I look down on both GUYS AND GIRLS who tries to take advantage of ANYONE. Link to comment
aggierocker Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 Girls who do that to me are sluts, but I'm not complaining. God you girls have it so easy. Just open your legs and let the guys flock. But when I get an erection people just look at me funny. Link to comment
teacup Posted April 23, 2006 Author Share Posted April 23, 2006 oh. i went to a restaurant with a guy and he kept pressuring me to take sake bombs with him. and since i knew he probably didnt want to drink alone, i went along with it. and had too many....didn't feel the effects right away but then i was reeling. was dizzy... he drove to his place, and i laid down on his bed, i was so dizzy and he tried to get me to get up and go to his living room to watch a dvd. i said i had to go to the bathroom and threw up all over his sink. then i was better and laid on the couch watching a dvd with him. he was touching my nose, being affectionate and touching my arm which was okay. at the end of the night he kissed me and i said what time is it? i want to go home. and he said "it's still early" but i insisted and he drove me home. and apologized for pressuring me to drink......actually he apologized several times. and then when i got home i realized i hadn't thanked him for dinner so i called him and said "thanks for dinner" and he didn't sound like he wanted to talk right then and there. but he did ask me out a second time. i still wonder about this. Link to comment
aggierocker Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 He was obviously being open for you to return the moves. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 Eeks. I hope he didn't drive with you in the car after drinking! On your next date (if you want to go!) with this guy stay sober. Take a solid look at him. I doubt he'll look like much without the booze. tc Link to comment
teacup Posted April 23, 2006 Author Share Posted April 23, 2006 He was obviously being open for you to return the moves. ?? what was i supposed to do? Link to comment
aggierocker Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 ?? what was i supposed to do? Two choices really. 1) Sit there do nothing 2) Make out->make some bad decisions you won't remember->1)STD or preggy w/ hangover in the morning or 2)just a hangover in the morning Link to comment
Spawn Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 what do you call a man who....pressures you to drink, and gets u drunk hoping to sleep with you? not a friend, not a person whom i can trust, would never be with him for the way he treated u. Link to comment
teacup Posted April 23, 2006 Author Share Posted April 23, 2006 yeah, i had a nasty hangover. i really dont get why men want sex so much? it aint that great. i wouldn't have casual sex. sex means emotional attachment to me. so what are ways i can make sure i am always safe and protected from men? no matter what? seriously, too many men try to get in my pants and it makes me feel dirty like i caused it. but i don't want that kind of attention! i want to be liked for who i am as a person. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 Uhh. You chose to put yourself in that situation. Sorry to say it; but enough of the 'victim' stuff. You're a big girl. Take care of yourself and stay away from these sleazeballs! Link to comment
aggierocker Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 yeah, i had a nasty hangover. i really dont get why men want sex so much? it aint that great. i wouldn't have casual sex. sex means emotional attachment to me. We have a penis. Plus, our psychological motivation of having a legacy. The groom leaps with joy on his wedding day along with his bride because he knows he going to have kids. Link to comment
teacup Posted April 23, 2006 Author Share Posted April 23, 2006 i stay away from men more now. but if i should ever get back in the dating pool (say in a few years), i would like to be safe. he looked so nice, and friendly and open and warm and fuzzy.....like a teddy bear. except mabe a teddy bear with big burly arms with hair on them. i always thought he was a nice guy. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 Yeah, fer sure ya wanna be safe. That's the number one priority. Sometimes it's hard telling the nice ones from the jerks, and we all make mistakes or get fooled at times. But for next time this might help 'weed' out some losers: *If he tries to drive after he has been drinking *If he pressures you to drink or get you drunk tc Link to comment
teacup Posted April 23, 2006 Author Share Posted April 23, 2006 good points. any other weeds to look out for? i'm prone to thinking this or that man is a butterfly until i get bitten and realize im holding a cobra. Link to comment
GottaLetItBurn Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 It's men we're just wired that way even if some small part of our brains actually gives a damn about your soul. We will always want to have sex with you if we are attracted to you, then maybe after say to ourselves * * *..how can I get out of this situation. It's an urge and I don't think some woman understand this. When we want it we don't care about emotional connection. I would only be thinking about what she looks like naked, and thats how it is. If he has to get you drunk then he is a loser. I think it's stupid to think that sex is always goinig to happen with someone who really feels a deep connection with you. If your young and that happens then you are lucky, but it's stupid to say that's the only reason to have sex. You are right, sex is really over rated. I've never seen someone who's reason for true happiness was their sex life. It's a combination of things I am sure, but most people don't care when they are young or immature. I have too say it takes a long to for most guy to REALLY mature. Link to comment
SxcLady Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 Girls who do that to me are sluts, but I'm not complaining. God you girls have it so easy. Just open your legs and let the guys flock. But when I get an erection people just look at me funny. Males can be s**** too. And this guy seems like a male * * * * and a sleeze!!! We have a penis. Plus, our psychological motivation of having a legacy. The groom leaps with joy on his wedding day along with his bride because he knows he going to have kids. The Groom will not always be jumping with joy on the thought of kids! If one of my exs(a specific one not any of them) wanted kids we would have stayed together. Hows that for a break up reason! Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 hehee. Yeah, it takes men a while to catch up with their penis. It's a powerful thing. Other weeds: *If he ignores you after you have said "no" about something *If he speaks badly towards, or about you *If he seems to lose his wallet a whole lot, or shows up to a date expecting you to pay for everything (if you offer to pay, that's different) *If he is addicted to drugs Those are just a few. I'm guessing this topic has been covered to death here, and there's probably some good lists or links around. Link to comment
teacup Posted April 23, 2006 Author Share Posted April 23, 2006 if i could cry or laugh hysterically right now i would. be definition, every man i have ever been out with is a loser and it seems clear in hindsight. i feel like i've been scrounging in the dust bin looking for a winning lottery ticket....but hey, i found some banana peels. anyone want to share? Link to comment
SxcLady Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 lol just be friends with everyone for awhile. If you like a guy, just wait a little while. See what he is like as a friend. Its easier to know what they would sort of be like. Link to comment
winter2005 Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 Insecure,Selfish,Shallow... WHAT AM I TALKING ABOUT HE IS NOT A MAN!! Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 if i could cry or laugh hysterically right now i would. be definition, every man i have ever been out with is a loser and it seems clear in hindsight. i feel like i've been scrounging in the dust bin looking for a winning lottery ticket....but hey, i found some banana peels. anyone want to share? LOL. No thanks, I've had my share of banana peels! Yeah, being friends with guys for a while is a good idea. Their true colours shine through fast enough. Link to comment
Bethany Posted April 23, 2006 Share Posted April 23, 2006 I think if you go get drunk with a man and then WILLINGLY go back to his place where he then actually makes you get up OFF the bed instead of trying it on with you and takes you home when you ask him and apologises for making your more drunk( which is not his fault, you're 28 and have a mind of your own), he isn't a sleaze because you put yourself in that position and he did the gentleman thing and took you home. The blame is on you, not him. Like someone said, " You're a big girl now" and you and you alone have to take responsiblity for YOU and not blame someone else for your actions. Link to comment
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