i have no friends!!

[b8s]

hi well my boyfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago. i decided that i'm not going to sit at home and i want to get back out there. problem i have no friends.

 

2 months ago my best friend moved to england to live with her husband my only other single girlfriend moved to go to school in buffalo, and all my other friends are married and never go out. i tried setting up a couple night outs with them but they canceled each time.

 

my ex is a co-worker and i have no desire to party with my co-workers outside of work. they are all younger and all they do is party not what i want to do anymore. there are a few there that i will go to the occasional movie with but they have a life outside of our job.

 

i know people tell me to sign up for classes i like or some hobby i like to meet new people, but because of my work schudule i can't do that.

 

so my question is how do i meet some new people for friends? guys and girls the last 2 weeks i have spent everynight at home and i want to go out!!

[jensxcom]

Its hard, i see your 30. Maybe join a class for something you like and meet people. Think about how you met your old friends. usually through school. So maybe you should try somehow.

Around this age its hard to meet new friends.

[damagecontrol]

My first suggestion was going to be to go out with coworkers, but you mentioned that they are not your type of crowd. I might still suggest going out al least once to see how it goes if you haven't already.

 

Secondly, I do not believe that your work completely restricts you from taking up a hobby or joining a class. This can be a great thing. It gets you out of the house, hopefully to learn or do something you enjoy, and you can meet other people. Try it.

 

Lastly, internet dating sites are used by many people now. It might seem a little weird at first, but I know many people who have met either good friends or mates because of these sites.

 

Best

[b8s]

yeah by this age everyone has there groups of friends, so i am at a loss as to what to do!! if i had the time and the interest in certain things to take a class i would but im a server so my work schudule changes every week and i work days and nights so its really hard to make a commitment like that when im not sure if i will be able to get to it.

[b8s]

thanks for the suggestions, the co workers is definitly a no go i used to hang out with them all a bit not my thing anymore anyways and my EX does that with them now! so im not sure i want to be hanging around when hes there esp right now

[jensxcom]

yea it sucks but i think everyone whos single at this age goes through this....

be careful of who you hang out with, dont just hang out cause your alone, make sure your treated right as a friend too.

[ehm doubleyou]

I would try the online dating sites...where you can metionion the type of relationship you are looking for ...such as being friends only to long term and such.....try: link removed....its free and big....its a good start and it works around your schedule...good luck

[annie24]

definitely - try dating sites.

 

surely you don't work 80 hours per week! I'm sure that you can find some club or class at the gym you can attend. What about going to church?

[shamus]

having no friends is difficult...i have a handful, but not much more. i'd start finding some hobbies, and see if there are social groups in your neighborhood. take a class, join a gym, maybe just go out by yourself even.online dating is ok, but there is some awkwardness to it as well. there are usually expectations on someone's part.

go to church.

[VerySadToday]

I am 40, going through a breakup and I have no single friends. link removed has a lot of groups that you can join, ranging from learning a new language to groups that go out on the town together. It looks like the page for Toronto is link removed