What in the world does this mean

[k2004myway]

So she says to me: "We spend way too much time together" and then in no less than a minute: "Let's go for a ride on the golf cart". How in the world does that work?

[chai714]

It means she's crazy. Stay away from her. Don't waste your time trying to figure her out - let some other guy deal with it.

[Goodfun88]

What kind of tone did she use when she said it, was she maybe joking? Maybe she likes that she spends way to much time with you, seeing as right after, she suggested spending even more time with you.

[Mrocza]

:S

 

Maybe she was being serious about spending too much time together, but didn't want to hurt your feelings or offend you, so offered to go for a ride?

[Goodfun88]

Or maybe she thought that you thought you guys were spending way to much time together so she wanted to say it first and see what you would say? I have no idea. Did she just say it out of nowhere or was it part of a conversation?

[PocoDiablo]

That was a test. You failed this test if you went with her. You should have said "No, not today, you were right - we DO spend too much time together."

 

It would have (1) shown her you were listening and (2) shown her you were confident enough to turn her down and (3) shown her that you can make decisions.

 

She would not have been happy, but I'd put money on her respecting it.

[k2004myway]

I did turn her down, and yes, it was part of a conversation about how we know how to get under eachother's skin. I responded to her with a hmph and a thoughtful nod (to her statement). It was said in a joking tone. We actually had a really good talk the other night (after this event) about boundaries and being open and honest about thoughts and feelings.

[bodgerandbadger]

Nah, you don't need to respond to this sort of stuff with "talks" etc./

 

If she gives you things like "we spend too much time together" or anything like that, just give her wants and back off 5 times more than she wants and see what happens.

 

Use a bit of challenge and she'll be begging to spend more time with her.

[PocoDiablo]

Use a bit of challenge and she'll be begging to spend more time with her.

Amen.

 

There is SO MUCH to this one line, that anyone reading it should really think about this a great deal. It's the key to success with women in my opinion.