Big Class!!

[Darkness3389]

Ok I am in a big life drawing class with about 40 people me and this girl I like are sitting right next to eachother side by side but my friend is right accross from her. I am afraid that if I say anything my friend might think I am tallking to him and not her and he might try to start a conversation with me when I really want to talk to her. Also her friends are in that class to as well as my and her seat are both facing the whole class and my last obsatcle is that the WHOLE CLASS is mostly quiet with only one conversation going on at a time . I thought of speaking to her after class but she walks so damn fast out that I am not able to catch her in time. Please help. I really really really want to get to know this girl.

[Cynder]

Why not talk to her before class? I am assuming this a college class right? Do you guys ever take a break in the middle? I know we always did when I was in college (I even took life drawing, lol).

[CarnelianButterfly]

Tell your friend your interested in her and maybe he will help you with the conversation. Tell him you want to talk with her and that he could maybe keep quiet for a little bit or just pipe in to keep things moving.

 

If she speeds away from class it might mean she's got another class to go to, so she may not be willing to talk, hopefully that not the case

 

Best of Luck!

[Darkness3389]

If I were too make small talk such as telling her that she draws nice, how long should I keep this up before I can ask for her number or ask her out and which one is better.

 

This is High School by the way.

[Andy223]

If you tell her that she draws nice, you are being friendly etc, but this is not the best way to start up a conversation. This might broadcast interest too soon, and could draw her away.

 

Don't even think about using pick-up lines, as they usually sound insincere and they are totally out of context with what is going on...

 

One thing - avoid making observations about her. Lines like "i noticed that you..." and "you look like the type of person that"... are bad. She will try to put up her defences, because you are centering the conversation on her too soon, which is probing and uncomfortable.

 

A good way to go about it, is to comment on things that are happening around you... like "hey have you ever seen a classroom this quiet before?... whats up with that!?" (im sure u can come up with something better

 

If you can observe, you can start great conversation.

 

women and ppl in general love talking about themselves im sure you know. Let her do all the work. Ask her questions (Get to know her a bit) Make sure you comment then question her, otherwise she may feel that she is being interrogated.

 

try using open ended questions... it forces her to give a longer answer, which you can keep the conversation going. Questions like:

 

why do you, what do you think about, how did you like, why do they, where did you, when was the last time you, why are you, why don't you... etc.

 

if you find yourself stuck on a topic, or if you are unsure about things to say then ask her' opinion on something. Dont let your mouth run dry.

 

avoid yes or no questions at all costs!

 

hope this helps yo out a bit

[ShySoul]

If she is shy she may not like talking about herself. Just something to keep in mind.

 

I agree with talking to her before class. Do you guys get there early? I know that I would be one of the first people to most of my classes, and that gave me time to talk to people seated nearby.

 

The other thing is to try not to worry or stress about this. Don't try to plan out what to say, just relax and go with what comes to mind. Start with the class. Ask how a project is going, talk about yours, about something interesting you learned. Compliment hers. Just be casual and friendly.