general question for men and women

[steff]

hey guys and girls, just wanted to know your views on this subject.

 

who are you most likely to chase, someone who puts out really easily, and doesnt view sex and things as special.

 

or someone that you have to wait for alittle before you start having sex or making out with???

 

so just put your opinion down thanks

 

steff

 

p.s happy australia day ... australia

[newts]

It all depends. I will only chase if we both have the same intentions of wanting the same thing from a relationship.

[Tigris]

Happy Australia Day to you too!

 

I would go for someone who thinks of sex as special, otherwise I begin to feel like a 'piece of meat!'

[musicguy]

I like girls who think that sex is somethng special. I have to love the girl who i have sex with or else it wouldn't be meaningful and loving

[steff]

thanks guys, the only reason why im asking, is because i believe it to be something special, but most of the people my age around my area and only interested in the girls at the clubs and pubs that put out... and i sit there quitly not drinking and no one seems interested in me... so i was just wondering what peoples ideas on this was...

[metro_girl]

Men sometimes think as long as the woman is having sex with them and "putting out" then she thinks it's special. I think sex is a huge part of how men perceive women to feel about them. When a woman has sex with a man, the man usually feels very loved. I'm also beginning to think that it takes nothing more than a good BJ for a guy to really fall in love and to think the woman really loves him. I'm surprised how many men think BJs are deal-breakers in a relationship. I used to think that was something only "fast" women did. I now understand that it's something most women do, especially in the beginning of a relationship. Maybe that's another post.

[metro_girl]

most of the people my age around my area and only interested in the girls at the clubs and pubs that put out... and i sit there quitly not drinking and no one seems interested in me... so i was just wondering what peoples ideas on this was...

 

The other issues is where you are in a club or pub (a bar), people drink and flirt and hook up, and that's why most men are there. If you're interested in meeting men who might take things slower, try going where alcohol isn't involved and where you have shared activities or interests in common. I used to meet a lot of nice guys at volunteer organizations where we worked together on projects to raise money.

[steff]

wow, metro girl thats like a great idea... im going to be doing volunteer work for my tafe course.... so yeah thats a great idea./... thanks so much

[G xx]

women who put out on the first date will get a name for themselves in my opinion and as my ex boyfriend said to me if i had have done it he wouldve took advantage but he wouldnt have called me the next day !

[hosswhispra]

I personally don't like or respect "fast" men, yuck!

 

hosswhispra

[Kevin T]

I'll try to be polite.

 

I don't like... errh, "loose" girls. Girls who would give it up for just about anyone. Not my type; at all.

 

I have a great deal of respect for girls who actually have enough self-worth and self-respect to cherish their own bodies without sleeping with every guy she bumps into.

[steff]

i agree with whats being said here.... i have this one friend, and she brags about sleeping with all these men, including one of her bosses, and she keeps getting mens numbers and men are always really interested in her and stuff... so its bugging me :S

[metro_girl]

It was like that in high school, and college, and even later in life with marriage. There will always be men who want women who make things easier for them in the sexual arena and who really don't want a challenge.