cranberry Posted January 26, 2006 Share Posted January 26, 2006 If a guy asks you out, and you are not interested in anything more than a friendship, can you still accept the date and say we could go as friends? Or is it "better" to just turn down the whole date? I'm asking because I met this guy in one of my classes--well actually he met me, he just sat down next to me and started talking. Today I think he was hinting at asking me out--he asked my plans for the weekend and I said I had to work. I can tell he likes me (because of other things), but I don't feel the same way. I enjoy talking with him, but I just don't feel it. Link to comment
DN Posted January 26, 2006 Share Posted January 26, 2006 Don't go out with him - he probably has friends but wants a girl-friend and he would be put in an awkward position. How can he decline your counter-offer without looking like a jerk. And if he accepts he would still be hoping you would change your mind about the friendship only idea. Link to comment
Kevin T Posted January 26, 2006 Share Posted January 26, 2006 If I asked out a girl and she said yes - as friends or not - I'd still be thinking I had a chance. I don't believe it would be fair to him to accept if you're not interested. I'd rather be flat out rejected than led along thinking I might have a chance. In other words, I'd rather know I have no hope, than cling to a false hope. Link to comment
cranberry Posted January 26, 2006 Author Share Posted January 26, 2006 Thanks Kevin and DT for the quick replies. So for future reference, how do I turn down a guy? Link to comment
DN Posted January 26, 2006 Share Posted January 26, 2006 You say something to the effect: "Thanks, I am flattered that you are interested in me but I can't return it". Smile when you say it and make sure you get his name right!! Link to comment
newts Posted January 26, 2006 Share Posted January 26, 2006 Don't accept to go on a date - it may give him false hope that there is a chance of a relationship. Link to comment
Belle Posted January 26, 2006 Share Posted January 26, 2006 Cran, I'm in the same boat. A friend that I hang out with a lot has asked me out now twice and I had to tell him no. He tries to use the friendship shoe horn to get me to go out with him but we both know it's a date and I'm not falling for it. I simply told him politely that I had already made plans. I like him as a friend but I'm not going to let him lead himself on. If he asks me again I will use the "I'm only interested in a friendship and I hope you can understand" route. But other than the activity we both have in common, I don't see him socially so he doesn't get any ideas. Link to comment
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