Help please

[Hannibal]

I'm really finding it hard to not call my ex.

 

Can anyone give me some of their reasons for not calling their ex when they really really really want to?

[sparticuss]

I'm really finding it hard to not call my ex.

 

Can anyone give me some of their reasons for not calling their ex when they really really really want to?

 

Sure Hannibal. Cause she doesn't want you back. Thats why. The fact that she doens't know how good she had it before she dumbed you is irrelevant. The bottom line is she doens't want you back.

[Hannibal]

Thats a good one, keep them coming please.

 

I'm going to need some for later!

[keefy1972]

Quite simple really...because as long as you are the one initiating the contact, your ex will NEVER say what you want to hear during the conversation. You'll end the call eventually feeling much worse than when you initially made it. Making you want to call again..and again. It's very cyclical.

[Hawk]

Hannibal - happened to me last night - spoke to her and I am now back at the bottom of the cycle again. So if you want to keep feeling like a piece of c..p then just keep repeating the contact process - the only thing that heals it is time.

[capricorn85]

If you speak to your ex, you will remember the memories and just the sound of his/her voice will make you crumble. It happened to me numerous amount of times. When you feel like calling write down all of your feelings in a journal. I have one just for my breakup. Trust me, NC is the only answer, after 3 months I am finally healing.

[arwen]

Because it will probably end up in a set-back in your progress towards healing.

 

Ilse

[Hawk]

Because for me just walking through a shop and smelling the same perfume that she wore is enough to get the old brain going.