Where do you draw the line?

[Diamond_dance]

Online affair – cybersex – is it cheating?

 

Jenny

[Hope75]

Yep!

 

Did this happen to you?

[darkblue]

Yes. I believe it would be cheating.

 

It is not physical, but it is still another person, at the end of a computer.

[Itsok]

100% yes

[PavPPZ1]

it shows you are looking outside of your relationship, and that kinda sucks... see whats wrong maybe try to fix... gl

[RayKay]

In my books, yes.

 

 

It is dishonest, a betrayal and emotionally (at the very least) cheating.

 

If you would not feel comfortable doing it in front of your partner, that is another good indicator that you are doing something dishonest (cheating).

[Bethany]

I personally think that if you are emotionally involved, then yes it is cheating.

If it's just a bit of fun while you are alone and have no intention of going back to the same person and arranging times, spending a long time together and relying on the other person more and more and arranging when you can meet up and do it again... then its just self-satisfaction then its more like masturbation than cheating.

[Relationship Coach]

Yes it is cheating and many times it is the first step to a physical encounter. The need for this type of behavior is a warning sign that the relationship is missing something. If a cyber relationship and or cyber sex was done with the knowledge of the other partner as in an open marriage, then and only then would it be OK.

[yeawutever]

Well if it's something that she/he won't do while you're there and the person hides it then yes.

[melrich]

Yes it is. More relationships now break down due to "cybersex" than actual affairs. There has been some excellent research recently released on this subject. I will post some excerpts soon.

[limelilies]

Yea I agree with wut both Relationship Coach and Alilec say.

[limelilies]

My b/f does cyber and one time he phone sex but he didn't hide it, it was open and was under my permission.

[limelilies]

Well until at one time it like bother me, though he did it in front of me, I then one day stop him no to any more, so he stop.

[Diamond_dance]

Look I am not saying I would prevent him from watching porn - its healthy and guys need it, but when he spends more time cybersexing online then he does in bed with me...

 

 

 

Jenny

[yeawutever]

Then he has a problem, have you ever though that maybe he's addicted to it. If so he needs help.

[Day_Walker]

I think that you should focus on it being cheat or not. What you need to do is ask yourself if you are going to accept this kind of behavior. Its not important that other people think its cheating its about what is appropriate for your relationship.