He IMed me

[C.C.]

He broke up with me. I thought that I'd never hear from him again unless I initiate the contact.

 

Just when I wrote on my journal last night that I love him enough to let him go, he IMed me today. Why?

 

I tried my very best to maintain my own dignity by not writing him back because I know that i still have feelings for him. I hope I did the right thing even though I am dying to talk to him again and to know why he contacted me.

 

Has anyone experienced the same situation? How did you deal with it?

 

Thank you for listening,

C.C.

[DN]

If he does it again maybe find out what he wants so you don't have curiosity for evermore.

[darkblue]

It doesn't really matter what other people did etc.

 

You have to do what you think's best for you.

You think you did the right thing - so it's OK.

 

Who knows why he IM'd - remorse? regret? boredom? lonliness?

It's unimportant.

 

If you want to make this easier on yourself; forget it happened.

[C.C.]

Thank you DN and darkblue for your advice. I was not very sure if I did the right thing which is why i posted here.

 

It is nice to know that someone who cares. Thank you.

 

C.C.

[C.C.]

He IMed me agian today to 'just' to tell me a good news about him. He said that he got this news last night. It's something I was aware of before the breakup.

 

I did what I would do if anyone told me a good news about themselves. So I replied 'congratulations' to him. I have been doing NC, but it did not matter to me if replying to him means that I broke it. I did what I think a good person would.

 

I know that it does not matter what his intension was any more and no one would know except himself, but i am curious. Could it be an coincidence that he IMed me out of blue two days ago and the following day he all of a sudden got this good news to tell me?

 

I have been repeating to myself and wondering about something: does it take strength to stand guard and take courage to let down my guard in my situation? I can not be his friend at this point, but I really can endure because I choose to be a worthy woman who can be strong.

 

Thank you for listening,

CC