highonyou Posted October 9, 2005 Share Posted October 9, 2005 ive known kirsty for 2 years now, and i think she may have narcissism. i thought she was just attention seeking, but her behaviour is far beyond that. Whenever we go out with mates, she has to be the centre of attention. she comes up with the most irrelevant statements to the conversation we are having, eventually the convo ends up being about her or she's doing all the talking. At our flat, she just wanders into my room and talks about her boyfriend, and how much money he spends on her like that impresses me. she talks about all our friends in a negative light, especially girls. it's crazy but i think she is jealous of everyone. no, she's never talked down to me to my face, probably because she needs me. i do all the work in the flat, cook wash, clean, u name it. is she a narcissist or am i just being paranoid and angered that she does nothing to help? Link to comment
HajiMaji Posted October 9, 2005 Share Posted October 9, 2005 It sounds like you are right here. There are people who need to constantly talk themselves up and constantly put others down so they can 'convince' themselves they are alright. From what you posted, it sounds like she is one of these types of people. It really makes me sad to see this sorta thing. In my experience, theres not a lot we can do. Not only does she have to identify that behavior she also has to muster up the courage to figure out why she feels inadequate if she isnt talking herself up or putting others down. It is hard to go down that road of self evaluation. I really feel for you, because these people can get annoying at times Link to comment
RandomAdvisor Posted October 9, 2005 Share Posted October 9, 2005 Sure sounds like she is. I once knew someone with narcissism, and he was a real pain to be around. EVERYTHING had to be about him. He was very arrogant, etc. etc. I remember someone else on this board describe narcists as seeing their lives as a major Hollywood movie in which they are the stars. I think that's an accurate description. Here's a Wikipedia article on the topic. link removed Link to comment
DN Posted October 9, 2005 Share Posted October 9, 2005 Sure sounds like she is. I once knew someone with narcissism, and he was a real pain to be around. EVERYTHING had to be about him. He was very arrogant, etc. etc. I remember someone else on this board describe narcists as seeing their lives as a major Hollywood movie in which they are the stars. I think that's an accurate description. Here's a Wikipedia article on the topic. link removed That was me!! Not only do people like this see themselves as stars but they see everone else in their lives are only supporting actors or extras. But this behaviour can also spring, oddly enough, from an inferiority complex. If she has feelings of not being as good as everyone else she could be over-compensating and pushing herself forward, boasting about her boyfriend etc. as a way of boosting her self-esteem. It would be interesting to know her background and accomplishments. Link to comment
highonyou Posted October 9, 2005 Author Share Posted October 9, 2005 Oh yes she is very irratating, at first i thought she was desperate for conversation, then its all about her. Quite fitting the narcissus flowers are just daffodils, you'd think they would be more impressive by the way they sound...just like the person Link to comment
highonyou Posted October 9, 2005 Author Share Posted October 9, 2005 i going to go with her slightly dysfunctional family background, mum and dad divorced and seeing other ppl, has an older sister with alopeacia. has only had 2 other b/fs before the 1 shes got now, it took 7 days to go from last 1 to this 1. i guess thats all i know Link to comment
RandomAdvisor Posted October 9, 2005 Share Posted October 9, 2005 Try not to let her get to you too much. If it becomes convenient, perhaps you could move. Or if she does become really annoying, maybe you can make moving a priority. Link to comment
melrich Posted October 10, 2005 Share Posted October 10, 2005 Yeah I think if you really can't live with it you may have to move out. She probably won't change. Link to comment
lefthanginagain Posted January 16, 2006 Share Posted January 16, 2006 The best advice to give you is to get out now. I have first hand knowledge of this devistating disorder. It has ruined me physically, emotionally, and financially. I dated a narcissist for 3 yrs and fell in love with her. I was used , abused and thrown away like a piece of trash when she was confronted. It is so hard to descibe the feelings I have because I truly was in love with what I thought was my soul mate. It has only been a month since this happened. Some narcissistic qualities for you to look for: self-centered, no remorse, unreliable, projects their faults on others, no conscience, insensitive to needs and fellings of others, easy to anger, manipulater, twists the truth for self benefit, pathological lying, moody, seldom expresses appreciation, defensive when confronted w/truth( will twist it to favor them), doesnt listen to others life stories(only them) These qualities all but disappear when they NEED something from you. As I now recall I dont think there was ever an instanced when she diidnt want something, never just to say hi or how are you. Please look for these, dont end up like me. It will be a long hard road otherwise. Link to comment
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