kelldude69 Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 well...my girlfriend and i have been together for 2 years now... we used to have sex like every night but the past few months it has been pretty nonexistant...in the past 2 months we've had sex twice...is there anything i can do to maybe spice things up a bit??? how about an open relationship?? i dunno.... i love her with all my heart but this is really getting to be a problem... any advice here would be greatly appreciated...thanks for reading Link to comment
yokohama_mama Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 What does she say when you mention the lack of sex? Was there any event that happened a few months ago that could explain the change? Link to comment
RandomAdvisor Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 Have you tried talking to her about this? Don't do it when you're in a situation where you'd normally be having sex and you might be a little upset. Pick a neutral moment during the day and bring it up. Link to comment
darkblue Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 Hi - and welcome to eNotAlone. Have a look around the 'Sex and Romance' forum for ideas on how you could spice it up. But first of all you have to talk to her. Link to comment
kelldude69 Posted September 20, 2005 Author Share Posted September 20, 2005 i've tried talking to her about it but we always end up in a big argument.. she says that she is too tired and doesn't have time.. Link to comment
RayKay Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 Well if she says she is too tired all the time and does not "have time" and is not willing to make time (I mean I assume you two spend some time together, how much time do you need?) then there is little you can do if she is unwilling to communicate about it and discuss it. How is the relationship other than the sex? You may also have to decide whether you are sexually compatible or not - in long term relationships there will be periods of time where sex may be less frequent, however once a month is definitely VERY VERY infrequent, and often it may be due to low libidos, stress, hormones, illnesses, lack of emotional feeling and so on...however it is up to you as a couple to work together on this. If one of you is unwilling, it's sometimes best to move on rather than drag it out for a much longer period of time. Sex is not everything, but it is something, and if someone seems to not want to work on that aspect, what is going to happen when other difficult situations arise. I suggest you read some other threads in this forum about this issue, there are several of them. Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 There is a reason why the sex has stopped, your job is to find it out. Link to comment
heloladies21 Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 That open relationship never works. Just a prelude to eventual break up. Sounds likie she's losing interest. I'd have one good convo about it with her, but if things don't change, might be time to call it quits. Link to comment
darkblue Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 That open relationship never works. Just a prelude to eventual break up. Is that personal experience? Link to comment
DN Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 If she won't talk about the problem and will not deal with it in any way - and you have tried several times, gently and patiently, to find out what is wrong you may have to consider ending the relationship. It won't get better if she won't accept that there is a problem. Link to comment
mccarleighp Posted June 5, 2006 Share Posted June 5, 2006 try new things in the bedroom that should get things back on track Link to comment
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