Why is it not wise to tell a girl u like them and care?

[b0nkers]

Hi, I dated a girl for nearly 2 months. One day I decide to tell her that I liked her and cared for her. After she heard that she freaked out and broke up with me. What did i do wrong? I thought it would be a sweet thing to say to her....

[heloladies21]

Sounds like too serious too soon. Let things progress more slowly next time.

[MetallicAguy]

What he said ^^.

[saint_saul]

2 months, though? I think 2 months constitutes a "hey, I like and care for you," since you're going out with her. I wouldn't call that too soon, but hey, maybe she does think that's a bit early. People are different.

[DropToZero]

Yea....like the above again...but next time, I wouldn't even say it period. If she ever says it after a couple of months...then soon after you may be able to say you care for her, but don't feel pressured to do it right away after she did. Personally tho, unless it's really serious...I wouldn't even say the words, I'd just show her how I felt if need be depending on what's going on between us. good luck...next time.

[asdf]

to be honest, you can say that to a girl on the first date and have it turn out good. the thing is, the way you say it, how you mean it, and how you come off is much more important. if you say this it is most likely to give her the impression that you're clingy/needy/etc, and you've kind of "surrendered" yourself to her. if you say it in a cool way that has the undertone of not being desperate/needy, but more of a "i like you, and i have no problem saying that, i'm not desperate" then it's actually a very good thing to say. but it has to be said the right way.

 

The importance of what you say is quite small in relation to how you come off saying it.

[Kaia]

I concur with what asdf said.

I'm the type of girl that gets freaked out when the guy express it verbally too early. You need to be careful how you say it.

[Rollingchick]

I dunno, last time a guy told me he cared for me...he left me a few days after.