If you're shy, join a camp!

[easyguy]

I just got back from a week long camp (music), and I can honestly say, even though I was asking the same questions as everyone else (intros and whatnot) for the most part (however, I got to know a few people better others), I started to open up socially around all kinds of girls -- super attractive or not. What you find is that they are just like you, especially if it's a camp for a certain interest. For me, it was music, so talking about music was effortless, which, in turn, made it easier to get into the more personal stuff as you get to know the person better.

 

The only way to get unshy (or less shy) is to just force yourself to get into social situations and just talk. There really isn't any other way than to just DO IT.

[ShySoul]

Yes, smart move. You meet people, particularly those with a common interest. You get to talk with them and enjoy the company. And you get to have fun doing something you enjoy doing.

 

Now, what if you do that but still don't find anyone you can really be friends with or get close to?

[DN]

Yes, smart move. You meet people, particularly those with a common interest. You get to talk with them and enjoy the company. And you get to have fun doing something you enjoy doing.

 

Now, what if you do that but still don't find anyone you can really be friends with or get close to?

 

Keep going until you do.

[darkblue]

Yes, smart move. You meet people, particularly those with a common interest. You get to talk with them and enjoy the company. And you get to have fun doing something you enjoy doing.

 

Now, what if you do that but still don't find anyone you can really be friends with or get close to?

 

Never give up. Keep doing things like it. Other camps/clubs etc where you share interests with people.

 

Eventually there will be a few that you can get closer to.

[annie24]

Wow - I am glad to hear you had a great time! Camp is a really good suggestion.

 

Now, what if you do that but still don't find anyone you can really be friends with or get close to?

 

I've found that everyone has something to offer, even if you don't feel like they are your soulmate or best friend at first. Everyone has an interesting story - just listen. Enjoy their company.

[SkyFire]

I just got back from a week long camp (music), and I can honestly say, even though I was asking the same questions as everyone else (intros and whatnot) for the most part (however, I got to know a few people better others), I started to open up socially around all kinds of girls -- super attractive or not. What you find is that they are just like you, especially if it's a camp for a certain interest. For me, it was music, so talking about music was effortless, which, in turn, made it easier to get into the more personal stuff as you get to know the person better.

 

The only way to get unshy (or less shy) is to just force yourself to get into social situations and just talk. There really isn't any other way than to just DO IT.

 

REALLY good idea. Helped me ALOT back in 2 years ago.

 

Camps, especially sleepover camps, are extremely underrated. Alot of people think they are for losers who have no life, but that's far from the truth. Back when I went to a sleepover camp, there were TONS of hot girls. Too bad I didnt get any back then because I didn't know what to do, eh.

[ShySoul]

Back when I went to a sleepover camp, there were TONS of hot girls. Too bad I didnt get any back then because I didn't know what to do, eh.

 

Good thing you didn't, might have got you kicked out of the camp and then you'd have missed everything. Your missing the point, its about doing something you like to do and having fun, not about scoping out girls.

 

I've found that everyone has something to offer, even if you don't feel like they are your soulmate or best friend at first. Everyone has an interesting story - just listen. Enjoy their company.

 

And I do listen. I've always gotten along with and been acquaintances with just about everyone. I enjoy their company. But at the end of the day we still aren't real friends, we still don't connect on any but the most common of levels. It's not that I'm shy, its not anything with them... its just that I'm different then pretty much everyone and will always have a hard time connecting with people. Theres only three people I really consider a friend... and I actually think thats incredibly lucky of me. Do you realize how hard it is to find one real friend? Point is, you can be social with anyone, won't necessarily make you less shy or be of any real help.

[MetallicAguy]

Yeah, I went to camp a long time ago in 6th grade. And I met a lot of people and made some friends. But I am an extrovert so it's pretty easy for me. Yeah I'd recommend going to a camp either that or if your in school start talking to people who are friends with your friends (that you don't know) it's easiest to carry on a conversation when you ask people like what their favorite sport or music is. Some people are introverted so it's harder for them to break the shyness, though it is not impossible.

 

If you don't know whether your a introvert or extrovert for sure take this test in this section of the forum and its called What's your personality type? by Lily04.

[ComputerGuy]

I went on a school camp in grade 6...so like 10 years ago now (OMG I feel old now the only time I went that wasn't with close friends or family. It was OK, but I didn't really socialise much...Ive always been the sort of person who has 1 or 2 close friends and is hapy with that, so that could have something to do with it, as my close friends at that time didn't go to the same school as me.