Str8, Bi, or Gay???

[Justme2]

I feel silly to ask others' oppinions of this but here it goes.

 

Let me start by saying, Ive been with 7 female partners, 0 male partners

 

I am married, several kids. I am totally in love with my wife. Here is the weird part:

 

I have had SEVERAL guy on guy fantasies. NOW, dont get me wrong, the act of two men and anal grosses me out, except when i'm wanking, then sometimes i fantasize about a man entering me too hot. When im not "in a fit of passion" nothing. Me NEVER taking a man anally... maybe my wife, but doubt it.

 

I fantisize about suckin a penis because they are so sexual and exciting to me, but would never do this..... I would hope anyway. I love to watch my wife do this, cuz it looks so awesome! I do not fantisize about these things while with her.

 

Sex with wife is awesome! I love all parts of it, no anal though, again, it grosses me out here too. Unless of course she took a strap on to me????

We are very freaky in bed with several toys. I have used a bp on occasion, but without her.

 

I'm weird, I will always be I guess. I doubt I'm gay cuz I love her "parts" soooo much.

 

I ?? the bi thing cuz of my obsession with the male member

 

Anyone else get these impulses? Again, I would never act on them, I'm married and 100% monogamous (sp) and deeply committed to my spouse.

 

Well?

[sweetheart4ever]

a fanticy is what it is..most people dream it n never do it, but really i think its just something..like your deprived of sex for even the lil bit of time n you start to think when your "Wanking" you know what i mean? but as soon as yer with her..then its something difrent, i think its just something that will occur! dont think to much about it really i dont think its that big of a deal less you start to act on it.tell your wife, maybe she will think its "hot" or might even help with a S.O. n possible you wont like it then it will prolly end this wank dreaming thing..never know.. good luck!

[Justme2]

Judging from the over 60 views now and only your 1 reply, you must have hit it on the head.

 

I have seen other advise you have given others in several different threads and let me say that you seem to be wise beyond your years.

 

What you had to say to me in your reply seems to be right on. I would only add that i occasionally view photos of nude males and photos of nude females but at this point do feel it's just to continue the fantasy.

 

Thanks again for comments/suggestions

 

Still open for any other comments or others that may have felt/done this.

[sweetheart4ever]

thank you for that statment, and your welcome for the advice, im glad that you seem to know what track your on, and as they say "Looking can be ok, just dont touch" or "Window shoping isnt bad just dont go in the store with no money" if you know what i mean!? Good luck i know youll be fine!

[darkblue]

tell your wife, maybe she will think its "hot"

 

My God, NO!.

 

Why the hell would you tell your wife. 'Baby, I have sexual fantasies with two men'...'Don'tcha find it 'hot'?'

 

Hell no!

 

As long as you are comitted and are still with your wife it's fine. But don't tell her for christ sake.

[Shadows Light]

Speaking as a wife... who found GAY...Internet Porn on her husbands computer.... and he was lax in his.. ummm hubandly duties... ie.. many months would pass between making love... 3, 6, 9 mths... and I tried with the Victoria Secrets lingerie...and all of it....and he still didn't want me....

 

I felt unwanted... unloved...and just not like a woman... made me feel lower than pond scum.....

 

Ya know... finding those pix on the internet.... indicated a lot more than fantasy or curiosity to me.

 

Sooooooooooooo.... it is what it is. And... I can't comment on your situation...but I can tell you how I feel as a woman.. in my situation. I can't compete with a man. I just can't. He never should have married me... he never should have hid behind my skirts. And it will take me a long long long time... to get over this hurt and many years of therapy. Thank-you very much.

 

I don't know if his.. FANTASY life had anything to do with it...but he also had ANGER issues.. and drank more and more. And me?? he had some lovely names for me... and they weren't... "lovey dovey names either".....

sssssssssssssssooooooooooo I can tell you... that as a wife... making this discovery... has ruined my life... I was devastated.

[Justme2]

Sorry it's takin awhile to respond, been to brickyard 400 time trials

 

Well, I feel for you and your situation. It is clear that your husband determined he was gay due to his lack of interest in togetherness with you. That could not be futher from the truth in my situation. See, i feel these things & have these fantasies but as I said, I am totally in love with my spouse.

 

Nope, you could not compete with a man, if a man is what he wants, but again, in my case, I want my wife, I am totally turned on by her, we make love 3 timess per week, and then F*** 3 more times that week. As I said in my post, my wife is freaky/kinky whatever & she openly fantasizes about being with a woman. I understand her completely that she only wants a porn beauty and would prefer that I'm there too. In this sense, I cannot compete with a woman, but I do know that she is 100% committed to me and am comfortable with the notion that she may have all sorts of things that excite her.

 

You aren't pond scum, you are a caring person to even thing about answering my post. He had other interests, there is nothing you can do except for loving yourself and remembering that every day is a gift.

 

The more I think about this the more I have to say that the first response was again, right on, especially after realizing that my own wife has the same feelings....DUH! It just feels strange to be a man and feel this, cuz after all, we are suppposed to be homophobes and manly. LOL!

 

Any other men feel like this out there? Alot of views guys and no posts... create another identity or something, I would like to hear from you and how you are coping/have coped with it.

[Justme2]

With 419 views now, i hope just 1 other male has felt these feelings and found these posts to be useful.

 

2 years later, im still in love totally with my wife, and am with her sexually as much now as then.

 

I do still occasionally have the same feelings, however they have waned a bit.

 

Still would like to....... nevermind

 

 

 

 

A gift ppl.. today is a gift...

[happywithher]

i fantasize about men all the time

i love anal sex on me by both men and women but i am with someone that i plan on being with for the rest of my life and i am completely loyal and totally engrossed in her

i love watching her suck me off and fantasize often about sucking on another male

i use a bp on myself often and i hope to use one on myself during intercourse

 

fantasies are fantasies thats all i can really say i think about things while in the heat of passion that i dont actually want to do i just fantasize about them. not all fantasies are inteneded to come true