dazedconfused525 Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 well went out with the ex last night slept over.. .. He wants to try and work it out said e misses me.. well I dont want to be chasing him anymore also dont want to be a door matt ... problem I want to talk to him today but I dont want to call him so he can think Im a pain in the arse ... How should I be playing this right now.. Link to comment
sexysadie Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 Sounds promising if this is what you want.... Question....how did you act when you first started dating? Could you take that approach... Link to comment
queenofvalidation Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 Don't call that man! Men are hunters by nature. He would love to hunt down a moose & drag the dead beast home, but if you drop a dead moose on his doorstep he doesn't want anything to do with it. Link to comment
sorryJason Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 I have been on the other side, and some men, like me (I think) need a woman to tell him that either you commit to me and me alone or you are gone, push him a little, make him nervous that you won't be around forever. I know that would work for me. Link to comment
dazedconfused525 Posted July 26, 2005 Author Share Posted July 26, 2005 ok so do I not call him today wait for him to call me? ughg I hate playing games.... I just dont want him to feel I will always be there.. Link to comment
sexysadie Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 Go for the NC until you are out of the grey area and you feel that you have gotten control over YOURself and YOUR emotions...this may be quite sometime. Do some reading on the net and the various boards...it really is for you, not for them. Prove to yourself that you can move forward, not the other person. Link to comment
DN Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 If you call him and then let him do what he wants you are becoming a doormat. But if you call him and tell him that if he wants to work on the relationship, now is the time and that you both need to discuss how to do that, then you are taking charge of the situation showing that you not going to be a doormat. You are letting him know that not all the decisions in the relationship are going to be made by him The challenge for him then becomes to get off his butt and start doing what he says he wants to do - work on the relationship. Nothing wrong in being proactive rather then reactive to get what you want. Link to comment
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