Keeping the fire alive for a Long Distance Crush?

[prib.ooda]

My Questions are:

• Is it possible to keep a fire alive long distance with only text for the next 2-3 months?
• I want something with her, as we’ve had chemistry since last year. I am just not sure how to deal with it, coz I don’t want to come across too strong and scare her off.
• Do u think she feels for me in more than just a sexual way?
• She said she’s trying to find herself sexually. Am I just another one-night stand or does it seem deeper?
• Also, was it a bit of a deal breaker that I couldn’t get it up after 1 time? I needed time to be able to get used to another body. Although, after I made her come so many times, she said I was spoiling her.. Maybe, Im just getting in my own head..
• Do u think she’s being in touch so that we can try things when she moves here?

TL;DR
Met a girl in August 2022. Hit it off. She left the City. Kept in Touch. Met her in February 2023 and went all the way. We're in touch. She's moving to my city in 2 months. Possible to keep the fire alive in Long Distance?
 

Context:
Last August I met a girl by chance at a bar. We hit it off. She was in a relationship, but there was some attraction from the get-go. We met a couple times in August and the conversation was amazing. She felt she hadn’t connected like that with anyone.

She left the city in September. We texted on and off every week or two. Our texts are massively long and quite intense about life and things we enjoy reading. Almost 400 word texts..

She randomly messaged me a few weeks while in another city saying she’s single. We continued texting every couple weeks on and off.

As soon as she returned to my city in December 2022, she messaged me saying she’s in town and we should meet.

We met in End December and had amazing chemistry as usual. I didn’t make a move and she left the city again.

We kept texting on and off. I told her I was coming to her city and she followed up a couple times asking when she’s gonna see me.

In February I was in her city, she said she’ll see me. We met. We chatted for like 7 hours straight. I then made a move on her. We were at it for like 6 hours. I could only get it up once, coz I am just out of a relationship and feel stressed with new encounters. But the entire time, we made out, held hands. Since I could only go once, the rest of the time, I just made her come like 6-7 times in other ways. We didn’t sleep. We left the next morning at like 10am. The night was strangely intimate, just cuddling, kissing, making out and holding hands.. I’ve never had a one-night stand which felt so loving. While we chatted she asked me why I never made a move on her in December and she also said she was attracted to me from the day we met. 

We’ve continued texting since Early February.

We text each other 1 time a week with long 500-word messages. I am totally into her mentally and physically. She is moving to my city in 2 months. Do, you think it sounds like she is interested in being with me? 
 

 

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, prib.ooda said:

She is moving to my city in 2 months. 

Keep up communication until she moves to your city, then you can pursue an in-person relationship.

[Batya33]

The fire sounds all or heavily sex focused so no I don't think so.  I agree with Wiseman except I would tell her to be in touch when she moves and you will too - communication would mean you risk getting attached.  When you meet in person you can continue having casual sex and or see if you want to date and get to know her more broadly.

[prib.ooda]

Dont think shes interested in anything other than sex? 
Even though we had so much chemistry before that? 

[smackie9]

Play it by ear until you can see her again. Sometimes things can pickup right where they started and other times the interest is gone. But it's best to be a little aloof. To be attractive is the be less available. People desire more what they can't have....so don't be so eager. let it ride. You should also be meeting other women in the meantime...just never know someone else could be even a better match. 

[Andrina]

11 hours ago, prib.ooda said:

Possible to keep the fire alive in Long Distance?

 

Context:
Last August I met a girl by chance at a bar. We hit it off. She was in a relationship, but there was some attraction from the get-go. We met a couple times in August and the conversation was amazing. She felt she hadn’t connected like that with anyone.

The answer to the question is: Nobody knows.

My take on this excerpt of your context: She's a woman whose ethics suck. She was in a relationship and chose to go to a bar and flirt with a stranger and exchange numbers. What makes you think you're so special to her that she won't do the same to you?

An attractive woman has made you so ga-ga that you can't see the forest for the trees.

[Batya33]

8 hours ago, prib.ooda said:

Dont think shes interested in anything other than sex? 
Even though we had so much chemistry before that? 

It seems to me most of your interest is sexual. As you know she cheated on someone to be with you sexually and you were ok with that.  Also that is just garbage about "finding herself" sexually - don't you think?