Anxiousone Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 Ok I need help please me and my girlfriend have been going out for 2 almost 3 months and we are long distance we live in different states. But we ft every day and text alot. Bit the past 3 days she has been distant which I noticed so I told her I would give her some space and I did she texted me that night and that's how I was doing and then called me and told me that she was going out with a friend to the movies next week and the she said he implying it's a guy friend but there going alone to see the new Halloween movie. And I'm a bit suspicious because it a guy from her work and she just started this job a week ago but she has insured me that if she ever thinks of cheating on me she will break up with me but I have this gut feeling that there's something more but she has Alot of guy friends because she doesn't get along with girls but most of her guy friends are her ex's or guys she has "talked to " but she only been with 2 guys sexually and there not her friends. But idk if she's testing me or playing mind game or what but she seemed fine when she fell asleep on ft tonight but. I have told her I trust he 100% that I don't trust guys because I know how they think and they are very manipulative. But she doesn't believe me but we are in that 3 month like end of honey moon faze so I don't want to over step until she's comfortable because she's distinct so I don't want to tell her that I'm not comfortable with it. But I just need help I have pretty bad anxiety so I over think Alot I just need to ease my mind it 4 am plzzzz help Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 16 minutes ago, Anxiousone said: going out for 2 almost 3 months and we are long distance we live in different states. But we ft every day and text alot. Have you met in person? Link to comment
Madlike Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 You just have to trust her then. Ask her to communicate with you while she is with him. Update you. If you’re so confident in her, what’s the worry? Link to comment
smackie9 Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 Long distance doesn't work. Girls need attention and if there's a guy they can physically touch, they are going to go for it eventually. Your options are very slim here. You are best to invest in a local girl. Having someone by your side is way more satisfying than fretting over what your girl is doing with new guy. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 I'm sorry -it sounds like she's focusing on guys she can date locally. How many times have you met in person? Link to comment
Anxiousone Posted October 25, 2021 Author Share Posted October 25, 2021 9 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Have you met in person? No I have not Link to comment
Anxiousone Posted October 25, 2021 Author Share Posted October 25, 2021 1 hour ago, Batya33 said: I'm sorry -it sounds like she's focusing on guys she can date locally. How many times have you met in person? None but we have planned to meet in person soon and I'm moving there Link to comment
Anxiousone Posted October 25, 2021 Author Share Posted October 25, 2021 3 hours ago, smackie9 said: Long distance doesn't work. Girls need attention and if there's a guy they can physically touch, they are going to go for it eventually. Your options are very slim here. You are best to invest in a local girl. Having someone by your side is way more satisfying than fretting over what your girl is doing with new guy. I see what your saying but I'm moving to her state so that's why I was invested Link to comment
Madlike Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 1 minute ago, Anxiousone said: None but we have planned to meet in person soon and I'm moving there You just have to trust her then . You seem so confident in her already. If you can’t do long distance then you need to break it off until you can move there. Long distance comes with trust 1 Link to comment
Anxiousone Posted October 25, 2021 Author Share Posted October 25, 2021 8 hours ago, Madlike said: You just have to trust her then. Ask her to communicate with you while she is with him. Update you. If you’re so confident in her, what’s the worry? I get what your saying and I will try my best Link to comment
Madlike Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 Yeah and communicate more often about your whereabouts. If she isn’t giving you reassurance then ask for that. Ideally she should be spending more time with you overall. Link to comment
smackie9 Posted October 25, 2021 Share Posted October 25, 2021 I tell you this, there is no guarantee you two will continue the relationship after you meet. Meeting someone in person is way different than what you see on a screen. 3 Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted October 26, 2021 Share Posted October 26, 2021 11 hours ago, Anxiousone said: None but we have planned to meet in person soon and I'm moving there If you have not met, please do not emotionally invest. It's just never a good idea, because you have no clue how well (or even if) you would get along in person. Don't put the cart before the horse and commit when you have never so much as been on a date together. And it sounds like she doesn't take this as seriously as you do anyway. For her, you're a guy on a screen. Maybe not a serious prospect for something long-term. It appears she is exploring local options. 2 Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted October 26, 2021 Share Posted October 26, 2021 11 hours ago, Anxiousone said: No I have not Ok. She's not your GF. How did it come about that you started talking? Someone who contacts you from a distance is a red flag. They're desperate, hiding something or not who they say they are. Link to comment
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