what now????

[00cougar]

ok i would probably never post at a place like this mormally, but somehow i stumbled in here and ive read a few things so i thought i might ask some questions..... btw im 21

 

here goes.

 

i have just come out of a two-year relationship with a girl that i really cared for, we had everything and our relationship was happy and meaningful. two weeks ago she told me that she had been thinking and wanted to take a break for a bit, and not be involved anymore. i had asked her why and she said that for some reason she just wasnt happy anymore. i let it go and told her that we could work through anything she needed, and that i would still be here for her, but she acted like i should not try to wait for her... she said she wasnt sure if our relation ship was right, but if it was we would end up together in the end.... so i figured id give her some time with it then one day after work she called me and asked if i would be around for a bit, when i said yes she said she was coming over to see me. when she arived i was on my couch watching tv, and she came over to me and sat pretty much in my lap. we talked some and she was just about as touchy-feely as ever and kept giving me small kisses on my shoulder and everything, just as if nothing had happened like us breaking up. i was totally confused but i didnt make any moves towards her. we had a great night as usual and the next day i talked to a friend of mine about it, she told me that it wasnt fair and i needed to put a stop to it or it would get out of hand. thats not too easy to do when you are in love with someone and want them to be with you...... later that day my ex and i ended up hanging out again. she was acting the same way and i told her that i thought it was unfair and didnt want anything to happen that would compromise our friendship. she agreed but never really acted different. in fact she somehow got me pinned and had her lips right to mine, and i swear it was so hard to not kiss her, i told her to move before something happened that she didnt want but she just kept asking me 'what?'... again i let it slide and after that i told her bye and went home. shes not making any sense here... first she says that she wants the relationship to be over but then she obviously still has feelings for me... and i dont know what to do or how to take it. im just so upset about it all, it really bothers me. she is really special to me, and i was really special to her.... at least until two weeks ago when this started. i love her alot and i dont want to lose her, she is everything ive wanted in a girl since i can remember liking them... other than that we had a really nice sexual life, and im going to say it, she was my first, and i thought, would end up my only. everything about us seemed to work together, and we had such a healthy relationship, we rarely fought about anything, and if we did it was a mild argument. i was always kind to her, we went out places all the time, had the best times, i told her i loved her alot, and tried to do nice things that made her happy like giving her roses for no reason or just complimenting her..... all the stuff i thought was the right thing to do.... it was a very different relationship than what some of our firends have, thats why i thought maybe her having some space for a bit would be okay, and that i could work with her to give her what she wanted.... now it seems like i dont mean anything and its wrecking everythiing for me.....

so how did all of this happen? and where do i go from here??? anybody have a clue???

[BrandonBo]

i think she realized that she lost sumtin she cared bout i would go for it cuz she was probly just confused and it sounds special and i would hold on to it cuz she cares for u just dont ask questions and go with it sounds like ur crazy bout her and sounds like she has major feelings for u girls a weird but thats wut makes them great just take it slwo back into the relationship and it will work out and if u love her alot wut ever makes her happy should make u happy if she desides no then go with it thats all i got to say

[dextro]

OMG dude you seemed to love her so much and she may now realized it and want to come back dont you think? If I'd be a girl' i'd marry you ( no kiddings). But thats not the case so lets come back to the subject. Give you some time cause you two seemed confused, just let it go. If you truly still love her, tell her. Don't avoid her, I think you two will be back together. Well that's my opinion.

 

peace and good luck

 

Jeff l. Spiegel