millaj Posted May 3, 2005 Share Posted May 3, 2005 Man.. here I am again, writing for advise on a subject that I don't find too unfamiliar. This time it's so much different though. Here's the deal.. I'm friends with this guy's sister, and I've known him for a while, but wasn't interested for a long time. All the sudden about a month ago we started hanging out, and I started digging him. Then one day we had lunch together and that's when he told me that he finds me beautiful, not only on the outside, but on the inside too. And from that moment on, I started liking him more than just a friend. I felt as if he looked at me the same way, but I know he is shy, but i'm so tired of pressing things to go so fast, that it seemed like a good situation to get to know him and just let it happen. The problem is that in a few weeks he's moving out of town, and i'm going crazy trying to figure out if I should say something or not. I don't want to scare him away, but I have fallen for him and I want to know if he feels the same too. Actually, I haven't seen or heard from him in almost a week and i'm going crazy inside. What should I do? Link to comment
annie24 Posted May 3, 2005 Share Posted May 3, 2005 Hi - Well - he's moving, so I think you should grab your chance! If he said he thinks you're beautiful, then it sounds like this may be real. Just call him up, and tell him you'd like to get dinner with him before he moves. On the "date," see how he acts. The bad news is that if he does like you, he's moving. It's pretty hard to have a LDR when a person just moved away. Don't get your hopes too up about having a real relationship with him. Just go out, have fun, whatever happens, happens. If I were you, I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life wondering, "what if...?" Link to comment
DN Posted May 3, 2005 Share Posted May 3, 2005 I agree with Annie, better to say something than regret you did not. How far away is he moving? Link to comment
millaj Posted May 3, 2005 Author Share Posted May 3, 2005 Thanks.. I don't want to spend the rest of my life wondering "what if" either.. The other good thing is that if he does like me, he's not moving that far.. maybe 8 hours.. and he's going to be coming back often b/c his sis. just had a baby. I'm just scared b/c I want someone to love me as much as I love them, and I know how guys are when they really like a person. I'd think he'd do all he can and want to see me as much as possible. I'm going crazy b/c I haven't heard from him in almost a week.. i've e-mailed and called.. I hope I haven't scared him away.. Link to comment
annie24 Posted May 3, 2005 Share Posted May 3, 2005 You e-mailed and you called? Well, I guess the ball is in his court now... Link to comment
matt_r Posted May 3, 2005 Share Posted May 3, 2005 Yes, defenitly tell him how you feel. If not you might regret it for a long time to come. You need to tell him how you feel, so that a way he might be more inclined to tell you his feelings also. And if it doesn't go over so good, which it more than likly will be fine, he's moving, so you have Very little to lose. Link to comment
millaj Posted May 3, 2005 Author Share Posted May 3, 2005 You e-mailed and you called? Well, I guess the ball is in his court now... Yes, and i'm going crazzzzzzzzzzzzy inside.. damnit. Why do guys do this? Link to comment
MetallicAguy Posted May 3, 2005 Share Posted May 3, 2005 Umm, believe me, if a guy says your beautiful inside and out, pretty sure he's interested. Either that or he's kissing *** just to get physical...but I don't really think it's the case here if he had lunch with you and stuff, lol. Well if he hasn't called in a week y'know he has a life too. If you don't hear from him for another week or two, just forget about him. Link to comment
millaj Posted May 3, 2005 Author Share Posted May 3, 2005 Umm, believe me, if a guy says your beautiful inside and out, pretty sure he's interested. Either that or he's kissing *** just to get physical...but I don't really think it's the case here if he had lunch with you and stuff, lol. Well if he hasn't called in a week y'know he has a life too. If you don't hear from him for another week or two, just forget about him. Yea, he's not the type to try and get physical.. honestly I think he's a virgin. His aunt and I are pretty close and she has wanted me to hook up with him from the beginning.. I talked to her the other day, but didn't tell her a lot.. she did ask what was up with us and I told her i'm interested and for her to keep it a secret b/c I don't want anything to change. She even told me she think's he's a virgin. Link to comment
millaj Posted May 3, 2005 Author Share Posted May 3, 2005 WOWOWOWOOW!! He just called!!! It's true, he didn't have my number b/c it was stored in his old phone. I e-mailed him today to tell him i wanted to see him again and to call me.. so he did! He's coming over for dinner! HELP! What should I do? I think I have to make a move b/c hes going w/ his sister to see her friend in LA, and I think the other girl likes him. Link to comment
DN Posted May 3, 2005 Share Posted May 3, 2005 Make a move - tell him how you feel and see what he says. Don't go overboard, just say you have feelings for him and wondered if he has for you, and suggest going out on a date. Link to comment
millaj Posted May 3, 2005 Author Share Posted May 3, 2005 nevermind.. I got my answer. He's not interested. I'm glad I didn't have to make a fool out of myself. He called me and asked because he thought that if he were to have dinner with me that he'd be leading me on. He said he's not trying to be in a relationship right now. Happy and sad about it.. well I guess one day i'll meet my soul mate. Link to comment
annie24 Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 oh no!!! Oh gosh - I feel for you girl. *sigh* It's ok. I guess it is better this way, since he will be moving so soon. Better not to start anything now. Look at it that way. Oh well - like you said - you'll meet your soulmate one day, AND he'll live in your town, hopefully! Take care annie Link to comment
annie24 Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 Oh - let me add... I think it's good that he just flat out told you he didn't want to lead you on. Imagine if he came over for dinner, you two kissed, then he moved, and acted very distant, not returning your phone calls and such. He just saved you weeks of aggravation. It's better this way I gues.... *sigh* Link to comment
MetallicAguy Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 Then you have to make a pretty good move on him for that effect to last. It doesn't have to be the best thing ever, but if you make it pretty good-average. He should be into it. He'll probably be pretty happy you feel the same for him so yeah. I think he'll reject his sister's friend's motives in LA, if you get the point accross to him good luck. Also if he has a brain, he should realize your interested because he's coming over to your place for dinner and you don't care lol. Link to comment
MetallicAguy Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 Oh wait, sorry for typing that up about what I said. I didn't read the other page. Well, that really sucks (sorry, don't know what to say lol). Link to comment
DN Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 Well, at least you were saved any embarrassment. Phew!! that was close!! Sorry it didn't work out. Time to set your sights on someone else. Any good-looking neighbours? 8) Link to comment
millaj Posted May 11, 2005 Author Share Posted May 11, 2005 Thanks yall.. yes, I'm actually doing ok. We met that day, but what happened was that after I invited him to dinner, he called me back and asked if I thought we were in a relationship.. so I responded saying no, but that I was interested in him, however I knew he was leaving.. so he told me he wasn't trying to be in a relationship right now. So we met, took a walk.. talked for a while.. I really saw that he's not interested.. I was really hurt for a while, but i'm over it now. I still like him though, and I hope that he'll like me back.. I haven't talked to him in a week b/c I want to separate myself, give him some breathing room with him moving and all. I'll let him contact me. *hugs* thank yall again! Link to comment
Napoleon Bonaparte Posted May 21, 2005 Share Posted May 21, 2005 Mill try to seduce him while saying soft encouraging words about how strongly you feel for him. Encourage him to touch you. The thing about shy guys, esp virgins, you can get them to fall in love easily cuz they are insecure. Use your femmine wiles. Link to comment
Napoleon Bonaparte Posted May 21, 2005 Share Posted May 21, 2005 Oh nevermind. I didn't catch the second page. Either way, you tossed your fish hook out. He knows you are interested and he is attracted to you. I think maybe you can still get him if you make him put in the effort. Link to comment
swedeace Posted May 26, 2005 Share Posted May 26, 2005 millaj: Wow! Reading your posts about this guy really reminded me of me a month ago! Situations were different and all, but I could relate with your waiting and his answers. But anyway.... Did he tell you WHY he isn't interested? He could have other things going on that he needs to focus on. Don't just give up on him and regard his "rejection" towards you as "just an excuse." That's what happened with me, but I have been keeping in touch with this guy too who has also opened up to me what he's going through. In any case, good luck! Link to comment
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