Dilemma!!

[shellyf62]

Don't threaten divorce. He already knows they are empty threats and all he has to do is produce some crocodile tears, lay low and open other accounts, etc. He doesn't want you to divorce because it's much cheaper and easier for him to cheat, not because he's concerned about you.

 

A nanny, child support, alimony, dividing all the assets, etc would cut into his skirt chasing budget. How can he chase women if he has his kids on weekends or has to cook or live in a crappy little apartment or sell his car and drive a minivan or beater? You are helping him cheat everyday.

 

He knows by now you'll put up with anything and just keep repeating the cycle with him and banging your head against the wall time and time again.

He also knows you are terrified of being alone because you are so dependent on him.

 

You don't want to leave him and he knows it. All you can do is privately and confidentially make appointments with an attorney and a therapist so you can get some facts, advice and get your ducks in a row and understand your options.

 

Wiseman is definetly a wise man!!! This post is brilliant