jonwainwrigh Posted April 7, 2018 Share Posted April 7, 2018 Nothing was a lie Jon I promise you that. The more I think about it I think timing has played a part, maybe I'm just not ready for all this, it's been a bit overwhelming and I still feel like I'm trying to find my feet for me and the boys. I want us to be friends, I totally understand that will take time but I hope we can get there. I realise this is my choice and if I lose you from my life altogether I will have to live with that. X Link to comment
GatorXP Posted April 7, 2018 Share Posted April 7, 2018 It's right there in black and white. All the chance in the world if u don't mess it up and she can keep it together. If this girl is your jam.... Easy game. Back off - do as she asks be her friend.. - ask nothing of her - expect nothing from her - be happy to do your own thing - be happy to see her when u do Watch the magic happen. Link to comment
jonwainwrigh Posted April 7, 2018 Author Share Posted April 7, 2018 Ok IL give her space and hopefully we will reconcille with time cuz I miss her loads and I know she is the one Link to comment
SweetGirl28 Posted April 7, 2018 Share Posted April 7, 2018 She was into you, she wants to be alone, she wants to be friends but accepts you can't be right now, and it's a risk she's willing to take in losing you because friendship is all she wants and can offer you. Link to comment
GatorXP Posted April 7, 2018 Share Posted April 7, 2018 Ok IL give her space and hopefully we will reconcille with time cuz I miss her loads and I know she is the oneCool, repeat those 5 things to yourself every morning. Win. Report back. Rooting for you [emoji109] Link to comment
jonwainwrigh Posted April 8, 2018 Author Share Posted April 8, 2018 I really wish she would reply even tho it's only been 8 days NC Link to comment
Blank State Posted April 10, 2018 Share Posted April 10, 2018 Nothing was a lie Jon I promise you that. The more I think about it I think timing has played a part, maybe I'm just not ready for all this, it's been a bit overwhelming and I still feel like I'm trying to find my feet for me and the boys. I want us to be friends, I totally understand that will take time but I hope we can get there. I realise this is my choice and if I lose you from my life altogether I will have to live with that. XJust play it cool. Give her space. Respecting a womans need for space speaks volumes about the type of guy you are. If you give her what she wants, she will think to herself that you're secure, that you're not codependent and don't need her to make you happy. Let her initiate contact if there will be any. Don't send "Thinking about you" texts or "How was your day". Respecting what she wants will also show her that you are putting her needs before your own. Link to comment
Blank State Posted April 10, 2018 Share Posted April 10, 2018 I really wish she would reply even tho it's only been 8 days NCGet your head out of that. NC isn't a game. Keep moving on and stop counting the days. Treat it as you're likely never to hear from her again and live your life accordingly. You want someone to talk to you because they want to talk to you. Not because you're putting pressure. Link to comment
jonwainwrigh Posted April 10, 2018 Author Share Posted April 10, 2018 Is it ok to tx in 3 weeks to say hope you have a nice holiday with the boys? And nothing else Link to comment
SweetGirl28 Posted April 10, 2018 Share Posted April 10, 2018 Is it ok to tx in 3 weeks to say hope you have a nice holiday with the boys? And nothing else No, because you're just using that as an excuse to contact her. And she will see it that way also. What if she doesn't reply? What if she says "thanks" and then you try to keep the conversation going, but she doesn't reply? What if you have conversation, but then she goes silent for days or weeks on end? You're setting yourself up for more hurt when you could just treat this as the breakup that it is, and move forward. NC hurts, but LC which is what you keep wanting to do, won't be beneficial. She's made it clear she wants nothing more than friendship. You can't do that right now because you want more. It just won't work. When we friend zone you, it's pretty final. We don't really have a romantic bond with you anymore. Partly because the intimacy is gone and for the most part our bond with you stays strong because of that. End it, and our feelings generally dissipate in time. Of course. No matter the dumper or dumpee, emotions run high and both hurt. But even missing someone doesn't mean wanting to be together. So many of us try to hang on with hopes that being "friends" will get our ex back, but it doesn't really happen. It's just a comfort zone until you wean off one another. You have to learn to let go completely because she cannot give you what you want. It hurts but you have to let go of hope and just push forward. If anything changes, she will contact you. I'm sorry you hurt. I hope you feel better soon. Link to comment
jonwainwrigh Posted April 13, 2018 Author Share Posted April 13, 2018 I had a reply today saying sorry she hadn't replied to letter she had alot going on and that she had lost someone close to her. She also said she would post a bottle of whiskey that was engraved with forever yours she gave me for Xmas and I had left at hers. Not sure how to take that? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted April 13, 2018 Share Posted April 13, 2018 Her mission is severing herself from you as diplomatically and kindly as possible. Now she's sending your stuff back. Leave her alone. Stop the letters, texts, begging, etc. Don't become the grovelling, stalker, chronically texting ex. No one respects that.I had a reply today saying sorry she hadn't replied to letter she had alot going on and that she had lost someone close to her. She also said she would post a bottle of whiskey that was engraved with forever yours she gave me for Xmas and I had left at hers. Link to comment
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