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  1. Look up "Limerence". This is likely something that applies to you.
  2. Did you come on too strong? (Kiss, heart, lovey dovey emojis, etc). This can turn some girls off if it comes across too strong. And I hate to say it, but she'll likely cancel. She seems like she's lost interest, so if that's the case, hanging out with her will only bring you heartache. Because she isn't going to be as affectionate as you want her to be, and you'll be worse off for it. Feeling rejected and having your hopes crushed. And she has a new interest. What you should do is be a real G and cancel the date now. Don't go into a lengthy explanation, and don't get mushy. Just say that you've been thinking about it and you don't think hanging out is a good idea. If she's over you at least you can leave on a good note with some respect. It's going to be hard for you to do, but you'll be better off for it. And just go N/C. This will start the healing process sooner rather than later.
  3. This is a terrible idea. Unless you're prepared to leave your job if things go sideways. I dated someone I work with, and we broke up a few years ago. We both still work together, but it is torture. You're never able to truly get rid of your feelings for someone when you see them every day. You just have to bottle it up and push forward. But it sucks. It's tempting to date someone you work with. But listen to the advice people are giving you. It's NOT worth it. Or else you'll end up kicking yourself down the road and wishing you didn't do it.
  4. You're in a little denial here. Breakups can be very awkward and often times people try to let the other down as softly as possible to avoid drama. If she was into you, she would move the earth to make it work. You are only going to torture yourself thinking there's still a chance. And you'll likely end up being clingy and needy which will push her further away. The best thing for you to do is listen to her and give her space. And focus on yourself. If she comes around down the road and you still want to give it a chance, then you can deal with that then. You're disregarding advice you don't want to hear. The sooner you can accept it the faster you can get over it.
  5. Buy the house when you want to buy the house. That way it's yours. Don't wait until you find someone. And if you're counting on finding someone to restore your happiness, then you'll be co-dependent. And that pushes people away. You're still really young. You got time. Do the things you want to do. If it's buying a house, then do it. If it's finding a new job, hobby, etc. But don't get caught up in desperately trying to find someone. You can end up settling. And you're not alone. Many people are going through rough times right now.
  6. Stay away. This is just too messy. Her bringing another guy to your work should tell you one thing. She doesn't give a about how you feel.
  7. Have you ever seen him with the 2 girls? He's likely bullting you. Because if he is possessive of you and into you, he wouldn't be bringing up other girls. He's trying to make you jealous. And you're coworkers? This has bad news written all over it. Because it sounds like he's your boss. If he's possessive now, what will he do if you 2 start dating and things go south? There's probably some sexual tension there, and you 2 enjoy some light flirting, but this isn't really a clean relationship. Too murky. I'd stop hanging out with him.
  8. I think it's totally reasonable for you to get her a luxury apartment through this. She's going to have to leave eventually. There's no reason to be locked down and be in an awkward situation. People are going to have to come to terms with everything. We aren't holing up until there's a vaccine.
  9. I was an the older guy dating a younger girl who had a boyfriend at the time. She was really hot so I couldn't resist. She made it seem like they were on their way out. I never once asked her, or pressured her to give me an answer on leaving her boyfriend, she would always bring it up. And every time she would get close to leaving him, she'd get cold with me, and then go back to "I do love him and he treats me really well, and we have so much history", which I would accept and leave it. She would eventually hit me up within a week or two and we'd start going again. This went on for about 3 years. And then what changed? He bought a house. For the both of them. Which she wanted. After that she couldn't risk screwing that up. The reason I'm telling you this is, don't be a jerk. You're being selfish and trying to have your cake and eat it too. You don't love your boyfriend. You're cheating on him. It's crappy to do to him, and it's crappy to do to the new guy too. Because you know you'll never commit to him. Because even though you may not be horny for your boyfriend, you're getting something out of staying with him. That's why you can't leave him. But what you should really do is give him the choice. Because right now even though he should suspect that you're cheating on him, (not sleeping with him) you haven't come out and been honest. Honestly, you should cut your ties with both and be single for a while.
  10. It's fun to think that there is some profound meaning in our dreams or something prophetic, but it's just our minds thinking without us controlling it. Movies tend to make us believe there is greater importance in dreams. Like Anakin Skywalkers dreams coming true, or even Nightmare on Elm street where dreams are real. And just like horoscopes and fortunes, plenty of people claim to be able to make sense of it, but nobody can. We just like to be a little dramatic about these things. Dreams are just a mish mash of things we know that come out in a weird order. There are no answers.
  11. Because she was probably hot af. Sometimes that's hard to let go of.
  12. Don't go in to abandonment issues. But what I will say is trust your gut. Don't play games. Instead of giving her an "easy out", realize that what you're getting naturally from her is not what you want. I've dated avoidant types and it's stress you don't need. You never know where you stand with them. Because they'll love bomb you one day and then the next day be standoffish or pretend that the previous day never happened. If it were me I would save myself the agony and just walk away from it. Because you aren't going to win the "Just give me an answer, I'm ok either way" game.
  13. I own guns too. But she isn't isolating the gun issue. It's one of many. But having a gun around is a serious issue. Accidents happen. Kids can get in to them. And every gun owner is a law abiding, responsible gun owner. Until they're not. She has a child. If she isn't comfortable, good for her.
  14. "You don't want her to think there's no chance for reconciliation". You likely made her feel that way by your actions. You unfriended her. You likely went to far when she said she felt overwhelmed and got a little passive/aggressive. But after you found out her point of view from your actions, you realized you went too far and now you want to try to get her back. Sometimes you lose when you let your emotions get the best of you. But I wouldn't break N/C. If she wants to reach out to you, let her. And apologize or say whatever you want then. She seems like she told you she was getting overwhelmed and needed a break. You got pissed off and cranked it up to 11 probably to see how much she really cared. Girls will think this is a game.
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