Bkay87 Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 About a month ago, I saw on my husband’s phone (after I felt he was acting suspicious) that he had been responding to casual encounters. I approached this very calmly and even told him that I wouldn’t mind having random hook ups, with him. It seemed like a positive step in our relationship because we talked about boundaries, etc. I’m not a jealous person, and I love my husband and understand sexual desires. As long as it was random, safe, consensual and talked about, I don’t see the problem. I have even brought it up again since we originally discussed everything, but he seems kind of timid. Anyways, when he acts suspicious I go through his phone. He knows this about me. He could go through my phone at any time. He told me he worked New Year’s Day, and we both work in an industry that is closed New Year’s Day. He was adamant that he worked New Year’s Day. When I went to his company’s website to show him they even posted online that they were going to be closed, I saw him get defensive about how that’s going to disrupt his whole week’s schedule, and he had quickly pulled up Snapchat and was typing to someone. He then took a shower and left his phone on the bed. I read the message, it was to his female coworker who I have never heard of, and the message said “looooove last minute plan changes” I don’t know what that is supposed to mean. Did he think I would believe he worked so he could go spend the day with his female coworker? Made me sick, but I ended up brushing it off. Later, I checked again, and they had been messaging even more throughout the day. But Snapchat conveniently deletes the conversation automatically. I looked on his Facebook. She was the last person he searched in Facebook And instagram. Then, on his recent emojis, they are the heart eyes, kissy lips, hearts, etc. even a red high heel was in his top used emojis. He never ever ever sends me emojis. I looked thru his messages and he never sends emojis on texts to anyone. Does That mean he is sending these to his female coworker, the only other female in his conversations?? What do I do. I was so calm About the casual encounters, but I fee if I bring this up I might accuse and blow up. I want to tell him this is his last chance and if I see anything like it again, no warning, I’m going to give him a taste of his own medicine. But I know that’s so unhealthy too. I just need rational advice and maybe some Tips to bring this up to him. :( Link to comment
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