Husband's new name

[Phoenix0401]

Hi everyone,

 

I've been dealing with this issue for a few months now and was wondering if anyone here could help.

 

So me and my husband got married this year. When I met him he introduced himself to me using his legal first name and that's the name I've used for him everyday for about 6 years. He uses his first name at work as well however, everyone in his family and all his close friends call him by his middle name. When I became aware of this it didn't bother me, it was a bit weird that I was the only one who would use his first name but it was fine. A little before we got married he said he was thinking of changing his name legally to his middle name. I'm in total support of this and shortly after we got married I decided to start using his middle name to address him, since I felt he was more comfortable with it. He seemed happy that I would do that in order to show my support of his decision. It's been a few months and it has been a bit difficult for me to adjust to using this new name. When I look at him, I think of his first name not his middle. I've been using his first name for so long I'm not sure how long it will take to get used to it. I'm hoping that anyone here could offer some advice on how to become more accustomed to using his middle name.

 

Thank you.

[Pleasedonot5]

Just give it time, honestly. Keep using it and catch yourself when you say it incorrectly. I'm sure if you mess up a couple of times it won't be a huge deal.

[Seraphim]

It may take a while to get used to it but eventually you will .

 

My husband’s family never uses his adult name as I call it. The use his little boy nickname and always have. I changed from using my legal name to a shorter version of my name about 30 years ago . Initially my mother didn’t like it but now she just addresses me by the short version of my name .

[pippy longstocking]

You will eventually get used to it ..

 

everyone who knows me via facebook calls me pippy in real life is as well ...my name is actually Lesley/Les

[tattoobunnie]

Up until I was 20, my brothers called me meu-meu for little sister in Chinese. Then, now it's my first name. And my parents called me my Chinese name until 20ish too. And that's half my lifetime. I never asked them to stop. You will get into the swing of things.

[catfeeder]

Whenever I'm addressing someone with a name change, I slip the new name into any mistakes I make by starting off with the old one so that I still get credit for trying. Hah!

 

For instance, "Hello Oldname-I-mean-Newname".