Jooop Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 Hey there, thank you for reading. The reason I am writing is that I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. One of my best friends is in a relationship with a nice, pretty, down to earth girl. My friend and I are both in the air force, however, his girlfriend is a civilian that lives at the other end of the country. I've met her a few times, and I get on well with her, but I wouldn't consider her a close friend or anything. I know he has cheated on his girlfriend multiple times. Some are random tinder hook-ups, whereas other times he can be actually seeing another girl for a while. When he does I do remind him that it's not really fair on his girlfriend, and ask him how he would think she'd feel if she found out. His response was basically, "What she doesn't know can't hurt her." I then asked how he'd feel if she was cheating on him, with as many guys as girls he'd cheated on her with. He sorta stumbled, and admitted that he thinks he's bi-polar, and/or dealing with depression. I called him out and told him that it's bull, and that if he's feeling that low he should speak to someone and that he doesn't realise what he has already and is screwing up. He claims to love her, but can he when cheats on her that much? When I've been cheated on myself and have been on the receiving end of finding out, I know what she'd be going through. And if I was her, I'd definitely want to know. The thing is when she does come to visit, we tend to hang out together, and it has my stomach in knots because I end up feeling guilty myself even though I haven't done anything wrong. He'll ask me not to bring up any girls he's been hanging out with. I don't really want to stick my nose in and tell her, as then I'd lose my friend. However, from an outsider's perspective, it's easy to see that this isn't fair on her whatsoever. However, she may also be cheating on him. I have absolutely no idea. What should I do? Just stay quiet or do something else? Thank you for any responses. Link to comment
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