Btbgal Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 Ill try and keep this short but i think my husband is having an emotional affair. Im bot sure if its crossed to sexual as the person i suspect is a coworker/his assistant who is in a same sex marriage although i know she has been with men before. Ive noticed a distance in him recently. He pus this down to the new job he took at the beginning of this year whoch is stressful. I think hes having an affair because of some messages ive seen on his phone (we have always been open with access to each other phones and know each others passcodes etc) hes been keeping his with him at all times lately and when ive seen messages next time i look they have been deleted when he doesnt delete anything else. The messages between them started as work related but then increased in intensity. Some examples are him texting when on leave saying hes misses her or hes been rhinking of her. He has also recently messaged her at like 11pm saying sleep well gorgous and you look lively in your Facebook pictures. I saw another saying i hope we are much more than colleagues. Her messages back seem less soppy but he has put in his messages i know you dont do gush. Hes said i love you a few times at the end of messages. She has said i love you too but she is one of those hi babe to everyone girls. Im not aure if anything sexual has happe ed as he doesnt tend to work late. I know they snuck off for a quick drink after work once as i saw texts but again he was home at a reasonable time. I have also seen messages saying thanks for the card you are so sweet and thanks for my (various) gifts that hes brought her. I know i need to confront him but im not sure if i have enough? Could this just be normal chat between colleagues or some kind of emotional affair that hasnt escalated to sex (yet)? I know he will try and deny anything is happeneingvor pass it off that i have the problem. Should i wait and gather more evidence? He obviously feels there is something to hide to delete the texts and keep his phone so close all the time. Given shes in a same sec marriage am i being ridiculous? Ive not told a soul about this and really need some advice as im doing my own head in?!? Please help me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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